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cornelia_street
Hello, I know the situation might seem a little weird, but I wanted an opinion because for some reason can’t stop thinking about it
I’m 24 years old, last year I graduated law school, and I’ve never been attracted to older guys-the maxmum age gap I’ve had in a relationship is 3-4 years. But recently, maybe because I’m bored and spent much more time on SN during quarantine or something, but I’ve started to notice a guy much older than me( one of his sons is in university, if that says something Very Happy ) , he’s a very famous lawyer in my (small) country, he participates actively in actions against the government, appears a lot on TV interviews and I started following him on facebook and his blog. At first, I read his publications because they’re very intelligent and I appreciate people who express their opinion without fear.But lately I’ve started to notice his looks also because he looks handsome for his age. So I got to thinking that I wouldreally like to meet him in person, even just to talk ,because there’s a lot I could learn especially since we work in the same field.. I wouldn’t mind doing something physical (I mentioned he’s handsome Very Happy) but then again, realistically speaking , normal relationship is out of the table for a lot of reasons (he’s divorced, not married ,but still) .
So I was wondering -do you think I should maybe send a message, just to express that I’m impressed with his work etc and see how it goes and whether he would be even slightly interested in meeting in person? Or even this idea is stupid and I should just try to concentrate on other things ? I would appreciate an honest opinion.
Best regardsmell
Don’t do it.
I’m worried by the fact that you idolise him. You see him as the pinnacle in your field, and you respect him and you… want to sleep with him? But you can’t have an equal relationship in sex or love if you idolise someone. Any interaction with him that you could have would be VERY unequal and open to him taking advantage of you. That would be true of any age gap relationship, but particularly where there’s also a professional connection.
Young people, particularly Women are vulnerable to being used or treated harshly if they sleep with powerful people in their fields. Look at Monica Lewinsky. I’m worried that you’d end up hurt and humiliated.
This is just a fantasy, keep it that way. If you meet him and strike up a personal relationship with him, you might find out he has bad breath, or is bad in bed, or has a girlfriend or boyfriend, or is a bad partner. In short – he’s a normal person and likely nothing like you envisage him.
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