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Jessica.
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Claudia
Hi guys
I probably sound crazy coz I don’t have any proof that my fiancé is cheating but I can just feel it in my gut
Let me take you back a bit my fiancé work a Normal 8hr job but all of a sudden he comes back home very late during week days . At first he was saying he hangs out with his friends after work the whole of January he was coming very from work apparently having a drink with friends after work . We spoke about it a number of times .
The now all of a sudden he has a lot of work and he has to work until late , now the excuse is not friends anymore , it’s work .
Today Saturday on a weekend ( he never works weekends ) he left in the morning saying he is going to work to sort out sort out some work issues , he will be back in a few hours . As I am typing this it is 10:21 in the evening, he is not back home and he is not answering my calls . I really don’t know what to think anymore . But I am going crazy coz I have went through his phone when he is sleeping to see if he is cheating . I can’t find any concrete proof . But my gut tells me he is cheating.
I am the one who initiates sex a lot this days .. before this thing of coming home he was more interested and initiated a lot . When I ask him why am the only one who has been initiating sex since January he tells me it’s work stress .
Am I crazy to think there is another women in the picture ? What must I do I am going crazy
Raven
Where does he work?
Claudia
He works for a telecommunication company he is and Intern there …I stay in South Africa . The company is small you won’t know it
Raven
Surprise him with Lunch?
Ewa
Sounds like he is and most likely he is using another phone
Newbie
There is no way i could tell you a guy is cheating from what you are saying. Like you said, you have no proof, plus you snoop through his phone and didnt find anything.
So your gut is saying something and that comes from somewhere youre not describing, like for instance he has strayed before, you dont have a strong relationship, you dont feel he loves you and is attracted to you. All those sort of things are more meaningful than he has been busy with work lately. So i cant tell. Maybe youre right, maybe youre paranoid. I would stop freaking out and snoop though and have a talk woth your fiancee about how its going. Youre are supposed to get married, so you have to decide soon whether you trust him or not. Talk to him, ask him whats going on. And if the attraction is gone for him. Its not a glamorous talk but you might as well dig before you marry himMaddie
Definitely sounds like something is wrong. May not be cheating though — have there been any signs of substance / drug abuse? Or any other potentially shady addictions? Money disappearing? Don’t marry someone you don’t trust in your gut… see if talking to him about how his work stress is now affecting you both gets you anywhere. If he’s hiding something he’ll lie and try to brush it off and never want to discuss it. If he’s a good guy, he’ll pay attention to you wanting to talk through concerns before marriage and take it seriously.
Jessica
You can always just make a good dinner at home a wait for him to come home. And have a romantic date at home. Maybe the romatic scene will lead things to the bed and you’ll connect again and see whats going on.
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