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Tatti
Met a guy on my commute to work Friday. It was one of those times when you meet someone and instantly have a spark/connection. He asked me what I was doing later and I was free so we ended up hanging out. The date/hang went well in my opinion.I really enjoyed his company and I think we got along really well. It also lasted over 8 hours.
Background on him, he was only in town for the weekend. Lives in a different city and likes to travel to other places for the weekend. He said he will be back to my city in a few weeks.
At first I thought he was just interested in sex, but surprisingly he tried nothing at all. We hung out the entire night, bar hopped a little. He paid for everything, held every door, etc. The one downside is that I saw a few different girls names on his phone while we were out and got into my head that he probably does this with everyone, every time he goes to a new city. My attitude somewhat changed after seeing those names and I think he could tell.
When he dropped me off at home, he said he would see me soon. I responded kind of snarky with “will you?”. Again, I was in my own head thinking “why would he try to see me again when he returns, he will probably meet another girl and hang out with her”.
Anyways, he never texted me after that. But as the weekend passed, I realized that I shouldn’t have probably taken it so personal or responded in that way. I mean, it was a first date, and I feel like I probably came of us uninterested in the way that I acted. I ended up texting him this morning asking if he had made it home safely. He said he had and he was sorry about the silence and that he had meant to message me, but that he had a good time.
The question is, do you think he is really not interested and just making an excuse? I feel like if someone meant to message you, especially a man, they just would. Also, wondering if I should hang out with him when he returns or just forget it and just remember it for the good night we had?
RoxHi Tatti,
Sounds like you had a great time on a chance meeting. If he isn’t local, I’m sure it made his day too. Seemed like he was polite and chivalrous, which is a good sign of respect and taking time to get to know you. You had maybe developed a higher expectation by the end.If he reaches out in a few weeks, when he’s back – you’ll know if he meant it – but otherwise, don’t sweat it
TammyComeon. It was just a casual meet up. And your already posting on the group tryin to analyse him and his motives. I hv gone on holidays alone and at times interacted with men and women and hung around with them in clubs and for lunches. I had a nice time and thats about it. I got back and forgt all about them. He may stay in casual touch or not, only time will tell. But you need to understand that this was just a casual hangout and you shld not build up expectations so soon on basis of casual hangouts. The fact that you made that snarky comment and then were the first one to reach out,is telling. I am doubtful if he will stay in regular touch. In case he does reach out, my suggstn is to keep it frndly and casual with zero expectation.
Ewamen are always interested in sex, some can pretend better than others…
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