Is he interested in a relationship?

I’ve have had 5 dates with this guy for over a month now. I knew him through a dating app.

We last met yesterday and he has asked me out again on Saturday.

The dates have always been great, with both of us talking and laughing together. He would take me out on dates and pay for our food and drinks. We had sex on one of our dates and he commented that we fit perfectly together in bed. We will usually make out on other dates.

He did show interest in me during the dates, by holding my hand, cuddling and kissing me in public. When messaging, he will also say that he misses me and the times we had. Occasionally, I would sext him and he would reply likewise.

The thing is, this guy often takes like forever to reply my messages. Sometimes he would have flowing conversations with me, but usually, he doesn’t check his phone regularly and can take up to about a week to reply. I know that he has 2 phones, the other being his work phone which is paid for by the company. So he seldom uses his personal phone.

Before our last date, I actually lost my temper at him and outrightly told him: “To be honest, I’m actually quite tired by you being uncontactable frequently and I would appreciate at least a message that you’re be uncontactable or something. if you don’t wanna talk, just let me know.” I told him he made me cry. He apologised, said he didn’t mean to make me cry, and said he had a lot on his plate right now – two of his family members just had surgery and one surgery didn’t go smoothly, also he just changed jobs recently and was struggling to get the hang of it.

I didn’t reply him after that. The next day happened to be my birthday, which he knows since our birthday falls on the same day and his birthday is just next month. So, I got really upset that day and messaged him: “If you don’t wanna chat anymore, it’s fine. Goodbye!”

It took him more than 10 days to reply to my message. He apologised saying that: “I understand your frustrations and I’m sorry.” He apologised a couple more times and explained that, apparently, he went to Europe for work, and was hospitalised when he flew back as he was confirmed positive for COVIT-19. He also mentioned he’s still had his family member to worry about and had work issues too. He adds that he did miss me over that period though (which I’m a little unconvinced by). He also asked how I was and that he wants to know more about what has been happening with me.

I eventually replied to his message and told him about my birthday party and meeting some other people over that period. He then asked to meet this coming Saturday, which I accepted

Yesterday, I mentioned that I planned to go out for a movie and whether he wanted to join me. He replied affirmatively and so we met. We did make out in the cinema sporadically throughout the movie and after the movie, he commented about wanting to have sex in handicapped toilet. I obliged, as I was also a little turned on then. (We ended up not having intercourse per se as he was too nervous about being caught.)

After that, he suggested we go for dinner. We had a nice long dinner and he paid. He then drove me home and kissed me like he really meant it. I presume we’ll be meeting again this week as he said: “See you on Saturday!”

Today, again, he went off the radar again. Which, again, makes me question his affections for me. I’m not trying to compare, but my exes would always message me at least a “Good morning!” and “Goodnight!”, so this guy’s attitude is a bit confusing to me.

I do like the guy a fair bit, so it would be disappointing to end what we have. I did outrightly question him how he feels about me and he said: “Feels great, I’m quite attached with you feeling-wise.” (But I really don’t know what to think and whether to believe.) He then questioned me what I think of us and I said: “I’m feel positively towards you, I think you’re nice and caring and family-oriented (which is good in my books). However, I was ready to nip it in the bud when you disappears on me for days on end.”

He’s apparently does not take the hint. So I’m now questioning whether I should continue with the guy or not. Please advise. Thank you!