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Bony.
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Newbie
just go with what he says and it might work out. I hope so
Lane
Some just need to learn the hard way I guess.
Lexy, you’re acting like THE MAN and men don’t want to date men. You need to learn the word PATIENCE and let the man start ‘the talk’ when he’s ready to engage in it because when a man does its because he’s falling or fallen in love with you. All he did was take away access for you to stalk him while intentionally keeping you in limbo because he’s finding a way out without having to directly say it to you.
Your constant need to box him into a relationship so early is not working in your favor. Stop trying to control this, stop trying to control him, just STOP and let it happen naturally and organically which is the MAN telling you what he wants because he wants it with you. He isn’t stupid. Men know women want a relationship but they also know there’s a small time line, up to 3 months where they can keep a woman on the hook before he sets her free and has to find another because she wants a relationship with him but he doesn’t want a relationship with her.
There’s an old story about putting the frog in a boiling pot. If you throw the frog in a boiling pot it instinctively jumps out. If you put the frog in tepid water and allow it to slowly boil it doesn’t see the danger and boils to death. Turn down the heat as he must be feeling like he’s in a pressure cooker with you. He is on his way out of the pot/pressure cooker which is why your still in limbo. I suspect you’ll get a text “I enjoyed getting to know you BUT I’m not ready for…”
You’re way too intense and not much fun to be around having all these ‘serious talks’ within such a short time of meeting him. I suspect he’ll start performing ‘the fade’ pretty soon….be prepared for it.
Honeypie
So the facts are you know he looked at the app whilst with you, and he was browsing and using it since that evening.
And he’s lied about both these things, and has told you he’s now deleted his profile.
He didn’t want to do this- he felt obliged to because of what you said. NOT because he chose to or wanted to do… and that’s in regard to looking and showing interest in other women and the apparent deletion of his profile.
If it’s tinder, you can easily check this out by creating a profile with no pick and flicking through. If he’s lying you will find him quickly. I suspect he lying…. not the usual thing I’d advise but you seem to be going nuts In this.
I’ll say it again- all of this hanging in to every text, every meeting, reading and rereading all that it might mean or not mean… what a headf@@k
This man doesn’t meet your needs…. you aren’t compatible. You have different attachment and communication styles and this isn’t gonna get better. Sorry.
Bony
Lexy – any updates?
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