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Sabine
So I have been in relationship with this guy for almost 3 months now and everything was going great, he is not the easiest to deal with, has some personal /family issues but he was always there for me , wanted to see me etc .
I spent the last 4 days with him, basically felt like I was living in his house , he introduced me to his daughter, we were spending time together like a little family .
This morning he felt a bit irritated with his daughter and I felt a bit awkward being there so I left , then when I texted him asking if maybe he would want to see me for a drink tonight he started saying he is busy at the moment then stopped replying and again messaged saying he was busy cooking . We are talking about a guy who was never too busy to see me so I am now here overthinking what happened this weekend that made him suddenly change his mind ?Yesterday he was talking about going away for a weekend, woke up really happy in the morning and then his mood changed. He is going away for a week soon and I can’t stop thinking that he will leave me then …
Across the Atlantic
Try not to overthink this. Things will be just fine.
Liz Lemon
We can’t possibly know what’s going on in this guy’s mind. Honestly, guys usually decide if they see anything long term with a woman around 3-4 months of dating, so it could be that he’s reflecting on whether he wants to get serious with you.
Meeting his daughter is a milestone too. So it may be that he just needs some time to digest what’s happening with the relationship.
Also, when you’re dating someone, they cant always drop everything to have time for you. Just because this guy was too busy to see you one time, does not mean he wants to break up.
The best thing you can do now is give this guy space. If he’s going to break up with you, there’s nothing you can do to stop it. Pestering him or nagging him will get you nowhere and may in fact push him to dump you. Just back off, give him space to work things out in his head.
Mary
What likely is happening is a loss of being in the present from so much togetherness. Give him lots of space to allow him to become present again.
Amy S
Hi. Does his
Daughter live with him full time ? If so unless she’s older she will
Always
Have to get priority. And also if you just spent 4 days together
You both need space
And him especially. This is how men miss you
And the relationship progresses.Sabine
Thank you for your replies !
We went for a drink in the end , I wasn’t really putting pressure on him , he said he’s got other things to do but it can wait . I told him I understand if he wants to spend an evening on his own but he decided to meet me for a drink instead.
His daughter is 13 and stays with him, that’s probably why I met her as I obviously stay at his place.
I won’t be seeing him this week so I guess he will have his space 🙂
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