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Natalie
We met each other when I was separated from my husband and haven’t settled the divorce yet. First date was beautiful and we had an instant connection. I was so happy that I do nay found a person that I really and really get along well with. He would text me 4-5 times a day and sometimes at night we would text and talk on the phone on weekends. The came the second date and he wouldn’t kiss me then.
I asked what’s wrong and he said that I’m still living with my husband and technically married to him, religiously he wouldn’t want a kiss from me. Then on a third date that he said he’d kiss me and maybe date me if I move out of the house and start living on my own. However, right now he doesn’t consider us dating. At the same time he said that he’d like to keep talking to me like we were talking before.
Recently my husband had a fit and was calling all of the phone numbers that I have ever texted and talked to. I told the guy not to answer his phone and don’t engage in any kind of conversations. He was confused and said that since we were separated, he assumed that I told my husband that I’m seeing other men.
Before our texts used to be about asking each other’s days and fun more interesting things. Right now he texts me only once a day just to ask or reply to my divorce questions. No hi or no bye yet! Does it mean that it’s over now?
What’s the guarantee that he will ever become the same again like he used to before. What can I do to win him over,, is he even worth fighting for? I mean what kind of person leaves me in this tough situation. My other friends have been texting me and keeping in touch making sure that I’m pulling through this divorce process.
Please, any insights? Should I stop messaging this guy to save myself a heartbreak. It’s been over a months that I’ve known this person…
thanksLil
No one wants to get involved in someone else’s drama… he is right you are still married and not even properly separated. Still living together… no one wants to get involved in that.
Get yourself sorted out first. Then start dating. You are not being fair to the men you are trying to date.
Newbie
I agree with lil. He might be romantic but clearly doesnt want to be involved with a woman who is not separated. So to me that saus he is a smart man. You have to sort out the divorce and that will take you some time. Dont get sucked into fantasies about this guy. You really need time to regroup
Raven
Drama much …?
Raven
ps: You are not divorced yet. You will need time to recover from your marriage-
Honeypie
Agree with the others. It’s you who isn’t being fair or realistic. You’re living with your husband and trying to sort a divorce. Your husband is going through your phone and calling people up that you contact ? I’m with the guy this is all too much for a sensible person to put up with. It’s not for him to check up on how you’re pulling through. You started dating him and he’s seen you’re in no position. Be thankful he hasn’t called you out on it as you’re out of order with your expectations at this stage.
Dangerouse
When divorcing, we feel the need for a man to rescue and help you through it.
But that’s not good for a relationship. He doesn’t want to rescue and help you. He wants a woman with her baggage behind her.
Better off single
Move out.
Its never a great idea to pursue a relationship when you are not even completely out of your current one.
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