Is he or is he not into me?

Hunny, get a date with someone else on the weekends. He’s busy…. You’re not. :)

You are wasting your time.hes putting NO effort in. Are you SURE he babysits ???? All sounds fishy to me. And IF he does babysit. ..why can’t you go with him. Dies he even take you OUT on dates or is it just hookups for sex ! Honestly…I’d look for a guy who puts waaaay more effort into me and gives me attention. I say ditch him. And you have NO IDEA what he does Sundays but you are exclusive !???? Can you see how WRONG that is ???

No weekend time= not serious about you. At a certain stage it’s OK to ask questions and you should know what he does on the weekends.

Stacey, see other guys!
He doesn’t sound like much of a catch…

Are you sure he is not married? This “friend” he spends all his time with could be a wife or serious girlfriend. I’ve had that happen.

After my break up of 8 years I reconnect with a high school friend who back then did not interest me. He is single no kids, I on the other hand have a little boy. We texted n talked for a few weeks before going on a date. We connected so well that we ended up sleeping together that night and went to see him the following week to his place for the second time I called him my ex guy name in his ear this time while being intimate, He never brought it up and I did like nothing happened, kept talking and texting but then we stoped. he didn’t text me and I didn’t either. I decided to try to work things out with my ex for the sake of my son who is four, I felt like I owed my son a family and their was still a lot of sexual attraction with my ex. Things didn’t work out with my ex and I completely broke it off knowing their was to much baggage and I did not trust him anymore after he cheated. one day i get a message from my friend he lives in a L.A and I live a little more then an hour away we start talking and texting and make plans to meet up again, then one morning I get a message from his girl friend telling me they were broken off but are back together so stay away from him I do. A month later we start talking again and he isn’t with her no more they broke up and we text all the time but don’t see him that much cuz of the distance and he recently got a DUI. In the whole time period we have been talking we have been intimately a few times but we talk on a regular bases like every day I know he is very attracted to me and we have fun when we are together so why does he not come see me were I live but he invites me to his place to stay a day or two but I live with my parents and it’s hard to get away and I have my son full time so I always say I can’t but yet he texts with me all day and tells me what his doing and we are friends on social media. I really like him and I want an honest opion if there’s hope. I am very attractive and hardworking girl who is recently single and have men asking me on dates all the time should I just move on an ignore him completely.

Hi, I would like someone’s wise advice:

I am writing with a man abroad since 1 year who wanted email/friendhip from beginning with several people. Through our mailings I developed deeper feelings. He though always stated to only want a friendship, as he had been having bad experiences in relationships before, suffering from panic attacks. A few months ago he had sent me a mail with xoxo. I hadn’t answered this sign at that time as I hadn’t seen this seriously. About a month ago I signed with XX which he also didn’t return to me.
How much hope is there if he is sending tiny flirts in between but mainly writing about his daily life to me. And what is it he really wants from me if he continues this type of communication with me? Will it possibly have to end once?

Cynth

Cynth

So, is a pen friendship nothing that can be developed? Is it just a “nothing”?

Hi, I am seeking help, yet again, from my anonymous friends on a personal issue.?
It might stretch a bit too long but kindly bear with it as only then you would be able to understand my case properly and advise me on the same accordingly.

So I met this guy through a common friend and we hit off pretty well. He had come to Delhi to submit his thesis and was here for a month. We would talk and chat initially and then started meeting up for coffee or drinks. He confessed that he likes me too. You can say he was head over heels for me. And i was the one who would bring him to the ground level when he would fly with his own thoughts regarding me

One fine day his best friend came over and we all met up. Let’s call him Mr. X. So Mr. X has had his own personal issues. He has undergone a divorce. Went back to talking to his Ex girlfriend and is having issues with her as well. So the day he met us and I left from there…the very next day I could see a change his my guy’s behaviour…He went like “Let’s take things little slow…as you can see even Mr. X is going through a tough phase, so I feel we need to give it some time”.

I was taken aback. The guy who was into me so much had changed his mind overnight. and this of course was because his friend in my presence kept on telling us to go slow, go slow, all the time. My guy’s friend through his experiences and talks influences my guy and he starts getting aloof of me.

I know it’s not a good reason enough to stay on with a guy who i feel is getting influenced by his friend and doesn’t value me or my behavour with him.

Another contributing factor that adds to the reason that my guy doesn’t call me as much as i would to him, (and seriously, i call him just once day) is that he is back in his home town where he is surrounded by his dad in office and an extended family the rest of the time…n i know he is genuinely busy as a person….he does call but either when he is either free, happy or high…it’s like i shouldn’t count but the ratio of our calls or texts are 4:10…..he tells me that he scared to get another heartache…even though he was the one who approached me…am confused…has he lost interest in me? or holding himself back? or scared seeing his best friend’s situation and conversations with him? What should I do? Should I let him go?

Hey girls, so I’ve been texting this guy for quite awhile now, [we exchanged numbers in september and have been texting ever since] he’s always very attentive to me [and only me!] whenever I saw him but I haven’t seen him since september.we text several times a week and he always asks me questions about my life [which indicates that he wants to carry on the conversation] and answers mine about his…he also said he’d love to go to my sorority formal when I asked him which is why i’m puzzled as to why whenever I ask him “what are you up to this weekend?” he always says that he’s studying for exams or writing papers etc. I don’t want to straight up ask him out though because that’d be like saying “I LIKE YOU” and it’d be highly embarrassing if he said no…

I have been seeing this guys since july 1. we hit off right from the get go. sex was okay but physical attraction was there. Unforntantly I ended getting pregnant in our second month of seeing each other. He did not want to have the baby and insisted i have any abortion. I booked one as soon as I found out about the pregnancy but on the day of I went to the abortion clinic i called him to come and accompany me but he didn’t respond right away he said he would call me back but he never did. I got to the clinic and broke down so i did not go through with the abortion. I re-booked it several other times but i didn’t follow through with it because i just couldn’t see myself doing it since i already have two other older children. anyways we continued to see each other, he often came over we would watch movies, have sex and head to sleep. that’s pretty much all we did although whenever he went out to meet his friends he invited me to come along with him which i didn’t mind. but recently i got tired of doing the something over and over again, movie, sex and sleep. partly its not his fault as i am a full time student right now and time is limited for outing. anyway long story short…few days ago i told him I wanted a few days to week break from each other. I didnt tell him why although i had lots going but since he never asks me any questions i didnt want to vent to him unless he asked. After hearing that i want a few days to a week break he asked me if we can have two month break and at the time we can revisit and see if things are still mutual. Is this his way of breaking up with me? I am four pregnant now and my ex-finance still once me back even though he knows I am pregnant someone else’ baby. He says if that if that guys does not step up h’d be there for me and the kids no matter what. he still loves me dearly and wants to have our old life back. I am not sure to wait around for two months to see if the break would re-candle us and change things for the best or to consider my ex-fiance and move on with life. I know he would be such a great father to my kids the only reason i left him was because there was sexual attractions otherwise he was such a good man to me and my children. I Am confused, kind advice would be appreciated. Thanks

Thanks Harley thats really helpful. will keep that in mind. it is true that my hormones could be playing a role on my emotions right now which can impact my decision making process. Although I have tried to keep a distance with my Ex-fiance but the more I do it the more he wants me it seems. He insist on wanting to take me out on a dates and wanting to work on things.He is a real gentleman and got along with my family very well when we were together. Like you mentioned I don’t want to settle with my ex-fiance for the seek of my situation but I want for both of us to be happy.so I will consider your advice.