Is he pushing me away? What do you think I should do?

He messaged me. He said he has a job now and asked me to thank my aunt for her help

The idea, Emma, is to give him plenty of space now for him to come back to you. And given that he’s gotten a job, he’s in the right frame of mind to start moving back towards you. But you should lean back and let him work for it.

Mirror his actions. Don’t push.

Should I reply that i was out all day and didnt see her until later or not say anythingg?

I sent it pretty much an entire day after I received it. He replied shortly after saying that he had seen and spoken to her.

God I am so lost.

I was very content with life until this incident.

This job was supposed to be the saving grace. I’m giving it a few hours to contact him again and I’m going to check to see where his head is, how he is doing etc. I’m thinking that his response will be very telling and I will have a better idea if the job thing was an excuse or reality. I’ll be able to make a good decisions from that point

YES EMMA! That’s it. This is your chance to take space on YOUR terms and have a clear look at the situation objectively. Ask yourself if this is what you want, or if maybe you feel you can do better.

I’m glad you aren’t pandering to him. Make him wait. It’s not fair that he stonewalled you the way he did.

I’m doing the same thing. Didn’t respond for ages and my guy reached out again. I was polite but distant.

Things had gotten better. Everything picked up. It was to the point that I no longer felt the need to sit down and have “the talk” with him. On Friday, we were finalizing plans that we had this week. He sent me a text about a specific and I replied to let him know that i would like for him to join me on an activity that i was planning that upcoming sunday. i gave him the time but said we could go after he was done with work or another day in the week if they worked better. He never replied and we didn’t communicate at all on Saturday which isn’t normal to go a full day without some sort of communication.

I found that he rode out with some friends of his to party. I figured that he hadn’t replied to me because he didn’t want to tell me he couldn’t go with me because he already had plans. As I thought on this, I wasn’t ok with him not replying or not even knowing he had went out of town.

I know this is a big no no but I texted him in the wee hours to say that i wanted to talk about our communication level. it wasn’t a negative text or anything and i used the book difficult conversations as a guide.

at a decent hour, I called him and couldn’t receive an answer. i called again about 10 hours later and followed up with a text that simply said “i miss you” so that he wouldn’t think i just wanted to argue or anything.

as of now, I haven’t heard from him in 3 days. something weird is going on with him because he deleted all of his social media. In either case, I am not texting or calling again. I hate that it came to this because we once were in a great relationship and even when things went bad instead of just walking away I put in work to fix it. I was on this page, reading books, speaking to people that specialize in relationship issues. in the end, I can’t do it on my own.

we used to be very close friends, so I hate to see things ending on these terms but I can’t go on like this.