Is he really interested or just playing it cool?

You planned everything and put it on a platter for him. So now he knows,you are more into him than he is. Try and let him be the man and see how it goes. If he doesnt pursue, dont invest in him.

I agree step back, just mirror what he does and let him step up. As females we want to reciprocate etc, but men need to be slightly challenged at the beginning. Right now you’re basically telling him the effort he is giving is fine. If you were receiving what you needed then that’s great, but from what you’ve written you’re not.
See your worth and let him show you he sees it as well.
Show him what you can do once you receive what you need and you know he is slightly more invested.

So he messaged me yesterday around lunchtime and asked me about when im free this week.
I messaged back (not straight away) and told him I would be free Friday and asked him what he had in mind.
I didn’t hear back from him til about half 9 last night and all he said was “hey, glad you had a good day. Friday sounds good. Ha ha I may have something fun in mind ;-) x”
so I messaged back saying “I bet you do ;-) and ok cool let me know what time and where X” and I haven’t heard from him again.
Now I know it’s only been 2 dates and we have already had sex…..but he’s not that interested is he? the reason I ask is cause he was online last night aswell. and I could see he was online but he didn’t message me til gone 9pm

He will not get a chance on

I agree with the ladies here. You showed and gave way to much and it’s only been 2 dates (with sex). You don’t plan or organized a date until you know that the guy is really interested and courting you. I remember one lady here saying for every 3 the guy does/give, she gives back 1 and that’s when you are in already perhaps month 2 of consistent dating with the guy.

With that said, you can still turn this around and find out exactly his interest level but you have to STOP initiating and being way too available. Let him come to you. You’ve done enough to let him know you’re interested. Now it’s his turn to show you how is interest level but you have to chill, step back, and let him come to you. It’s not playing games, you should never settle for crumbs.

I know that anxious feeling on the inside it seems you are feeling when you don’t know what’s coming next. I used to get this all the time. And when I did, I would try to control the outside world because of how I felt on the inside (per my therapist… and she was right).

Honestly, you are lucky. I think this guy is showing you that he wants more than just sex. It isn’t like you’re waiting days between responses.

You need to calm down. And when you feel that anxious feeling, acknowledge it and then let it go. Go for a walk. Breathe. Call a friend. Watch tv. Read. If you try to control things and “show” him how organized you are, well, you’re going to chase him away. And this will happen with the next guy you date, too. And I know from experience, the saddest thing won’t be that you chased someone away. It will be that you didn’t allow him to chase you, so you never really knew how he felt.

Try to live from a place of abundance, not scarcity. (Again, I know this from experience.) You have to think that even if this guy does flake, well, who cares??? There are 10 other guys ready to meet you and fawn all over you. It’s hard to believe from where you are now, I am sure, but it’s true. I’ve lived this and since changing my outlook, since June, I’ve dated 11 guys. I’m the one deciding if they are enough for me, not the other way around. I never would’ve thought that was possible.

Trust me, just accepting a date SHOWS a man your interested. If a man is really interested you have to do NOTHING other than be receptive and be your natural self when together. Stop looking at your phone and wondering when he will check in next…if you continue to do this it will send off a “needy vibe” that a guy can smell a mile away and will pull way back. He is totally TESTING YOU and if you continue to be overly eager he will move on to a lady who can control herself.

Its far too early to get this caught up in a guy you barely know at all. Treat him like A STRANGER by carefully listening and observing him which requires you to take what he says with a grain of salt until he PROVES to you over a long period of time his WORDS AND ACTIONS mesh up on a consistent and regular basis because if they don’t you won’t go very far.

Slow your roll—stop chasing, stalking and obsessing over him or he will run for the hills super fast.

Nothing…if he doesnt write in the next six hours, make your own plans or better even already do so. Dont cancel the plan that you come up with under any circumstance…even if its just to go read a book in a library, dont tell him you planned something else.
When and if he writes or calls, say your plans are made. And that since he didnt give you a time, you thought he was not ok to meet up.

Step back, dont initiate, dont wait on the man…he expects you to chase…you are showing him all the signs that you will. Surprise him, change the way you are approaching dating. Let him lead.

Yes, it is a good thing. He made tentative plans, you nailed down the date and he’s following through with the planning. I think you should go on the date and enjoy it!