Is he scared of me or not interested?

Sorry for a long post, in advance. Just to start off, I’m a successful woman in late 30’s, with plenty of confidence and some say, ok looks.

I’m very easy going and upfront, but I tend to intimidate guys. I’m friends with all my ex’s and they’ve told me that i actually intimidated them at the beginning. I’m not a big “dater”, when I meet a guy, I tend to always date that guy for a long time. Recently I separated from man, we were together almost 9 years, but lost all the intimacy, so we both agreed that it was time to move on. Very painful, but I couldn’t live my life like that. I think intimacy is so important.

So, I’m new to the dating world, again. I’m very selective, because I know what I like and want in a man, but I’m not a ball baster or a pain in the ass. HA I’m finding myself a bit confused now, because I’m big on being transparent and direct. I do like to be pursued, but sometimes I feel like it’s a waste of time. You like someone, great, enjoy each other, and no games. Just would be so much easier.

So, now to my question. I met a man 3 weeks ago at a local lounge. Our connection was fast & effortless. Super good looking, funny, great conversation, charming…I thought, well, I would like to get to know him.
He was a perfect gentlemen, wanted to come home with me, which is fine, didn’t happen. I gave him my number. He promised to reach out the next day…he did. Great flirty texts back and forth. Then asks me out that evening. I already had plans. I told him I will make sure we see each other on the weekend. He said: “Great.” I texted him the next day, asked him for drinks/beach/pool. Nothing back. I’m a pretty secure woman, so I go on with my day. Don’t think much of it. I texted him the next day, just with a question mark. Again nothing. I simply, let it go. Delete his number, because, let’s face it, he’s clearing not wanting to see me. Nothing personal.

I don’t hear from him for a week or so, then I go back to that same place we met at (I go there almost every week, so it wasn’t unusual for me to be there, he however, told me that he never goes there). As I was saying goodbye to one of my friends, who do I see walk in? HIM. So I smile in disbelief of how interesting life is.
I say to him: “So what happened?” with a smile, and he says: “Look, I know you’re all popular and I’m a younger guy, you just wanted to play me. I got your texts, but they didn’t say anything, there’s was no action suggested. I just don’t think you’re interested.” Well, my face froze. Because I wasn’t sure how more clear I could have been. BS. I told him I deleted his number. He kept asking me if I was mad at him and I said: “Why would I be mad? Confused, yes, but mad, not at all. You don’t owe me anything and we only met once.” So then he kept chasing me all night. Made sure I put his number into my phone, etc. I was there with friends and so was he. Needless to say, one thing led to another, I ended up taking him back to my place. If I like someone, sex is something very natural, I don’t really need 2 months to get to know someone. Plus being intimate is very important to a relationship, so if there’s no chemistry, why would I want to date that man? However, I don’t sleep with many men, I’ve been married twice, and had been in serious relationships, all lasting 6 years+. So the sex was great, we do have crazy chemistry. I dropped him back off after and we talked about seeing each other again. He said, if you want, text me when you get home. I did just that. And said I would like to do it again. And he said, yes, again and again. *Note: not really interested in anything serious right now.

The next day, I texted him and told him I had his tshirt. He didn’t respond. Fine. I texted him a bit later, saying I want him. (Since he accused me of not being interested, I thought I would be a bit more feminine). Again nothing back. I don’t really read into things too much, so I texted him with a concrete plan for the weekend and asked him if it sounded good. Again, nothing until the end of the night, around midnight he texts: “Hey”.

I got back to him the following evening with: “Not a fan of games. We both adults. I want you. You want me, make plans. Friday?” No response.

I’m a bit confused now. When we were together, it was easy, effortless, fun. He said a lot of wonderful things. Again, I’m not looking for anything serious right now. I just don’t know what to say or do. He’s an idiot, because, we could just be enjoying each other’s company, without any drama. All he had to do, is be direct, say: Not interested, want something casual, or want to date you. I guess that would be too easy.

Thoughts??