Is he slow fading?

I clearly don’t want some kind of second chance or second guess from his part. I will move one and already did. I have other options. But still, I can’t deal with this kind of behavior. I just want guys to realize that it’s not ok… if a complete stranger slams a door at your face in a restaurant you can call him out, but if someone you have dated several time shuts down you have to remain silent? I don’t understand the logic there… it’s the same, it’s called disrespect.

I’m not spending more time on him if i send him a last text. And at least he will know I moved on and won’t be imagining I’m crying on my pillow. Which I’m sure would boost his ego even more.

I will not send him anything but this is what I thought about:

“These last 3 weeks we spent some hours together and enjoyed each others company. The less I expect was open communication like adults tend to have, but… seems like we don’t share the same values after all. 😉 wish you the best! “

If someone would send me this text, I might start to question myself. Don’t you?

All of those things are going to feel painful for you to read, but they are all the behaviors of a secure person who is dating.

Seriously, if I got this;
“These last 3 weeks we spent some hours together and enjoyed each others company. The less I expect was open communication like adults tend to have, but… seems like we don’t share the same values after all. 😉 wish you the best!“

I’d be singing the cuckoo for coco puffs song, just saying…

Giving these guys so much of yourself is EXHAUSTING…

Hello everyone,
I have been in a relationship with a single father of two children for 6 months. We started casually going out for drinks in August and we also work in the same company.
He was chasing me a month earlier and I was not paying much attention to him as a potential partner and I had strong doubt as to if we could be together due to being colleagues.
One of the evenings in September after work he invited me for a beer to his apartment. We started chatting and like all times he was engaged in our conversation, he wanted to know me more on a personal level and suddenly he kissed me.

Since then he did everything he could to convince me that I am so important for him, he always remembered what I was telling him about my life, family, food that I like, traveling etc. How much it feels good to him, that we have chemistry in all matters and such good discussions.
To my question in the first days of December he said to me: There is no doubt we area couple and you are my gf. We spent Christmas and NY seperately in different countries. Due to his work week by week he lives in the same country, area like me. He said this is his fault and that next year we will celebrate Christmas together. He was very warm, kind, funny, understanding, patient and all what most women like in men.

He bought tickets and booked summer vacation for me and him to a secret destination. He self invited himself to the trip I am going at the end of march which I also found it a great idea.
he did everything he could and all the right words to convince me how good we are together, that he is her for me, that he will invite me to meet his children to his home country, buy for me a desk to work from there.

In short he did everything he could to make me fall in love with him, making me feel so important, making future plans, meet his family and good friends. Inviting me every day after work to his place, taking me out for nice drinks and dinners, texting and calling me everyday.

All this started to shift since January. Our issues at work, stress from work, stress from his ex and started pulling away which picked a week ago where we discussed. I pointed out in a polite way that the dynamic has changed between us, that I feel the least priority to him. I also raised a general question about potentially having more children in life. First he said yes but not now and 2nd time he said no. Justifying it that it’s not me but him that he is not sure as he needs a break from paternity.

On Valentine’s Day he chose to spend his evening with a colleague and didn’t bring to me or took me nowhere out. He said he is not romantic and this period reminds him when his father died 14 years ago.

I told him I understand and that we need a break to think how we can continue. He didn’t want to accept that we will not text/call each other everyday because it is weird and that he doesn’t want to lose me.

One week passed with no improvement, in fact it went worse since. Minimum contact, short text, not flirty or friendly and yesterday not even a goodnightrext.

What do you think I should do? Definitely I am not happy with him anymore. I don’t want to chase him and I want to end this. I am in love but I don’t think he is really in to me anymore and I sense there is no future. Even if ther is a chance it will be always difficult for both.

Thanks
Nina

I don’t think she got played, I think he just changed his mind but hasn’t the balls to tell her, thus the slow fade…
And I assume you wouldn’t even call this man out for his disrespectful behavior?
If I were you, I would end it saying you don’t get what you want from him anymore and that you are getting bored.

Nena, until you realize that you are not a victim to what anyone does to you before you are committed, especially only 3 dates, dating will be hard. Expectations of strangers is wasted energy as you can only control 3 things … you, your actions and your responses.

The woman above dated this man for 4 months. It is disappointing what he is doing, but notice she thinks yo herself… maybe I should dump him, he is not meeting my needs. Secure thinking in the face of someone pulling back.