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Annoymous
So met this guy about 1.5 month ago. Been texting daily throughout the day and been out a few times, so nothing major. We’re friends but are sensing each other as a romantic opportunity.
Whenever we text, he always replies long paragraphs and straightaway(within minutes or half an hour). Whereas it takes me an hour or two (sometimes longer) during the day to reply. I’m not doing it to play hard to get- I’m usually quite good at replying but because I’m home for Christmas and New Year just now that there are constant family time , dinner parties and get-togethers that either my phone isn’t glued to me or I’m speaking to someone.
So because of this, after our third meet up, he started replying slower, like me almost. I am interested in him and whenever I reply, I take time to do it properly. Is he slowing down because he’s losing interest or merely mirroring me to not seem eager or something? It’s just I have stuff to do with family and friends, studying and part-time job that I am really trying to text him back at a timely manner.
What are your thoughts? Thanks :)
Raven
I’m confused, why is this an issue?
Liz Lemon
I’m with Raven, I don’t see why this is a problem…
but to answer your question, yeah, he might be mirroring you, or pulling back a bit so as not to appear annoying or needy. If he is, that’s a good sign, because it shows he’s not clueless– he’s paying attention and wants to be respectful and not blow up your phone.
He also might be busy with family and holiday commitments too, like you are.
I wouldn’t worry about it as long as he’s replying. And more importantly, is he planning to see you again? The real sign of his interest is if he asks to spend time with you in person.
Annonymous
Issues I’ve noticed: always having conversations with me over text. He wants to take it slow apparently, don’t know how true this is. Been out three times, I’d say we see each other every 1-2 weeks in weekends (we both need to travel half an hour). Not asked to see me for the fourth time yet. Could be because we’re both home just now or just not that interested.
I’m not too sure about this guy…does this not seem wishy washy to yous? What do you guys think?
Mermaid
You are fretting way too much about this. You have only been out 3x.
Maybe he is busier right now & can’t reply immediately. Guys can fluctuate response times just like women.
He’s probably not even sure about where you fit in his life at this point. More importantly dont start nitpicking about things like this to him early on. Keep it to yourself.
Sensy
The way he texts has no bearing …just watch his actions concerning seeing dates and seeing you.
Liz Lemon
You’re out of town for the holidays, right? Wait to see if he asks to see you when you’re back in town.
I agree with the above. You’re overthinking things. It’s the holidays, so people’s schedules (including his) fluctuate. You aren’t even in town. Just wait for things to get back into the normal routine, and see if he follows up asking to see you. In the meantime just focus on enjoying your friends and family and don’t get caught up in worrying about him.
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