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Micky
Hey guys.
So we’ve only been out a few times and Iv noticed we don’t text every single day which I never thought anything of it until today. And wondering if this is normal –
So for instance we will text every day for say a week or two, we would hang out text and then he goes silent for say 1-4 days and then he texts again so on etc. Is that normal for dating?
At the moment we was texting each other every day for say a week, we met up 9 days ago haven’t planned our next day out as his been pretty busy with work was texting fine & then it’s now been day 2 of him not texting and I’m wondering if to just leave it or be like hey how’s you. Iv always left it and been like ah I’m sure he will reach out don’t be chasing some man it will look desperate but I’m wondering if to change that and be like hey hun how’s you been or something?Eric CharlesKeymasterYou don’t need to text every day.
It’s about the quality of your conversations, not the quantity.
In fact, no texting is better than bad texting.
Asking how he’s doing is fine. It’s fine as long as you don’t stress about it.
Micky
Thanks Eric for the heads up. I just wasn’t sure if it was normal so wanted to ask.
I’ll reach out to him tomorrow see how’s his doing, hopefully he responds and I don’t get ghosted ha :-)Maddie
The texting probably doesn’t mean anything. But him not planning your next date after 9 days of not seeing you is not the best sign. I’d make sure to be living my life and not waiting around for him or investing too much or reading tea leaves until he’s showing you consistent attention. That means you don’t need to guess, because you see him consistently enough to not feel confused, and his words and actions always line up. You can text him occasionally if he’s still taking the lead overall, but if he’s not scheduling the next date and you’re not seeing him more than a couple times a month, you should think about if this situation is actually working for you or not overall.
Sam
I think it is normal to not text everyday. I think it gives some time to miss each other. The guy I started seeing not too long ago doesn’t text me everyday and I am fine with that and I don’t text everyday. I agree with Eric, its the quality of the conversation that’s more important. I do agree with Maddie about not planning a date after that many days. You can try asking him for change to go out
Tallspicy
No date on the books and less texting? Do not text him. You reach out as a reward for consistency, not to create consistency that he should be creating with you. Texts don’t matter, only seeing each other does, and he is not doing that.
Micky
I don’t think him not properly planning another date is a big deal for me to be honest because I knew he was super busy this week with work as he told me his got alot booked in when I see him so that’s probably why he hasn’t. It’s something I wouldn’t read much in to be honest with you. Plus I also have stuff going on myself, I’m actually going away shortly. I don’t expect to see someone every single day that I’m not even in a relationship with and also i would feel a bit like full on if someone kept asking to meet up.
We did say however what we would do when we next meet up but we just never discussed when that would happen.Micky
Oh and I also have a chronic health condition called endometriosis so I actually can’t meet him every week either due to if I’m in pain that week eg when I come on and he seems to be understanding of that. So yeah I’m kinda cool on that aspect of him not properly putting a date in a calendar or anything when his busy himself with lot of work booked in that week he said when I last see him iv always been pretty chilled because I think we’ll I have my own life and health issues and so does he and his pretty laid back too as he knows as Iv been open & honest bout my health so he knows we just plan around things when we both can I guess. I was more on about the texting situation but thanks for the input.
Anna
Hi Micky,
I think you are in some sort of denial here… you are ok with him not seeing you but the fact that he doesn’t text bothers you, yet you mentioned it here that he is super busy so I am confused.
Men find time for who they want , no matter how busy someone is , if they want to meet they will. He has not planned another date and you can say here , he is laid back, you have health issues, fine, but to me it looks like you would like to see him again and it bothers you.
Men don’t connect over text so it doesn’t matter how often or not he texts you. You need to spend time with a guy to connect with him and you are not doing it.
And I will say it again you keep saying how busy he is , yet you expect him to text you everyday.Micky
I never said I expect him to text me every day! I asked if it’s normal to not text every day I was just wondering hence why I asked the question. Sorry if this sounds rude but it seems you are putting things into peoples mouth Anna ;-)
Anna
I am not and you are not rude :)
Kash
I think you have to figure out what’s important for you. Is not texting really a deal breaker for you? Because you have to decide if the guy or the relationship is worth ignoring your critical wants in a relationship.
Amy S
Hi. Not texting every day is ok at the beginning. It’s not ok if he’s not texting at all and
Just replying to yours. That’s a whole
Different thing. This is going at a snails
Pace so make sure you are dating others and still
Keeping your options open. He sounds of low interest. -
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