Is it true that a man knows within 3-4 months if he will marry a woman?

I think this is 2 separate questions.
Does a guy know if he wants to marry you within 2 months?- personally I would say that’s too soon to know a person well enough to know if you want to marry them. You’re still in the infatuation stage at that point. Some men may feel they know but whether this would change over time, it could well do.

Should a guy see a future with you at 18 months?- I would say yes. This is long enough to have got to know each other and established a firm relationship. So I believe even if he doesn’t want to do those things at that moment there should be a general idea about the relationship progressing that way.

In saying the above it obviously depends on the persons personal views to marriage and children and also ages etc. I think the most important question would be do you understand each others views on commitment and is the relationship progressing in a way/speed you are both comfortable with.

I think almost in a dreamworld men know that quickly as it would save us all a lot of time and probably be more romantic but in real life, men can be as indecisive and haphazard as women. Life circumstances impact on them, what their focuses are at different times in their life – sometimes its to do with the women, sometimes its not at all and more to do with where they are in their life.

As an example – My dad was a bit of a rogue and a party boy (typically like the kind of guys I tend to date!). He met my mum, they were together for a year but he was dating someone else at the time. My mum fell pregnant and he want back and forth between the 2 of them for a few months (he was living with the other woman! It was the 70s). My mum gave him an ultimatum, he chose her, and they’ve been together for 36 years now.. My point being, I don’t think my dad thought he would may and stay with my mum forever when they were dating. He didn’t want to settle down or have kids – it happened to him, and then he got his shit together (finally!!). I know plenty of stories like this. Men’s minds and ways are as messy as ours. I would actually like it if we knew they decided that quick. but I don’t think there’s an exact science or time frame to long-term settling down.

I think they might have an inkling deep down by that time, and that’s provided they are fully and emotionally available. But they probably won’t bring it up, so as not to jump the gun.

However, I’ve heard (and believe) that by 18 months, the talk of marriage (not a formal proposal) should have come up.

Of course, there are factors involved- age, stage of life, etc.

Guess it’s all relative. I don’t follow scripts, anyway.

None of kn0w how men REALLY think :)… Goodness that is what brought us all here. But frankly I know that for ME that this is way too soon. And frankly I would be scared by a guy who was rushing.
Now, he may know that he really cares for you, even loves you, knows that you make him feel different, but marriage is a big deal and I personally would want a guy who took that very seriously. I will never regret my divorce, but will be 300% certain before I ever get married again as it is is such a life wrenching experience.

It really depends on the man. My most serious (but not very long-term) boyfriend figured we’d probably be engaged within 6 months-1 year. We weren’t really a match and broke up. But the woman he met just after me, he proposed within 8 months, on NYE a couple years ago. He was over 40, owned his own home, was very secure in his career. The woman he was with before me (I was his rebound, probably another reason it didn’t work out) he was with her for 10 years… he said he knew after about 3 years that she wasn’t the one for him but they stayed together out of mutual comfort, I guess. She was there for financial security.

A man has to feel he is “ready for marriage” before he’ll propose. Depending on the man, that could be in his late teens or early 20s or not until later in life… it depends if he wants a partner to help him build his life or if he wants everything settled before he commits his life to someone. Or a man could marry anywhere in between but usually it’s at the beginning of his building phase or when he’s done (unless he’s in his building phase and it’s taking him longer to find someone).

Those are generalities, of course. Everyone is different.

In my experience… yes

Yes. How much more time are you going to waste?