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Dana
I’m into this guy and asked him to meet up with me. I’ve been going through a hard emotional time and he’s been asking if I need anything.
He texted me a few days ago at midnight and told me to let him know if I need anything. I asked him if he could talk in person. That was on Thursday, he said yes and that he was available Sunday evening. We’ve got a bit of history, unfortunately it’s been drinking and hooking up on Fridays and Saturdays.
Usually he says let’s meet at “your place”. But this time he told me to choose wherever was convenient for me, so I chose a coffee lounge.
I don’t know if he has a girlfriend now or is seeing someone. But I definitely think it’s suspect that he’s not available until Sunday night.
Any thoughts?
Ewa
Why are you answering his texts at midnight ? He might be just busy with other things so Sunday might be his only day off , nothing suspicious
Dana
Thank you for your reply!
I actually didn’t respond to his midnight text because I was sleeping and texted him in the morning instead. I’m trying to figure out if this guy is playing games with me or if he’s seeing someone. Sometimes he’ll go a whole day or a few days without texting me but he’s been more responsive when I told him about some personal things I’m going through and kept asking if I needed anything.
Does that midnight text strike you as odd? He’s never texted me that late before. I’m that text he asked if I was feeling better and to let him know if I needed something. I’m not sure if I should be reading anything into it.
Raven
You are into a guy who you drink & hook up with. You want to get together to find out if he’s into you. If he were into you, I think he’d be taking you out…
Dana
Fair enough. This is the first time we’re hanging out together without alcohol and we’re meeting at a public place. So I’m not sure if that means anything or if it’s a start to something better?
Maddie
If I was into someone and they were going through a tough time and leaning on me, that’s exactly not the time I’d want to put more pressure on them to escalate things! That’s a bit manipulative and also not a good plan if you really like a person because someone may not make the same decisions when vulnerable versus not and change their mind when they feel better (for example, someone on the rebound realizes a couple months later they’re not as into someone as they thought when they were feeling more shaken up right after a breakup).
So I wouldn’t read into anything other than he’s trying to be a nice, supportive friend, especially considering you have a casual hookup background together and he’s been less responsive in the past rather than showing interest. If he says otherwise, you can reassess your relationship.
Rox
Hi,
I think you are overthinking this. It’s good you made a choice to meet in public and that won’t involve drinking or hooking up. No, I dont think anything particular about it being Sunday – but it is the weekend and people generally have more time then.
Go and see ! You can’t read a person through text.
Dana
He doesn’t value me at all. He was supporting a “friend” in the mental ward the whole weekend and had been supporting her before as well.
He knew I was also going through a tough time but chose to only spend a few hours with me tonight.
Raven
Sorry it didn’t turn out like you had hoped…
Now you don’t have to guess where your thing is/was going. I disagree that he doesn’t value you. He left his ‘friend’ to spend a little time with you.
Tammy
I thnk you were expecting too much from a person with whom u just hang out to drnk and f**k. Whn you told him ur going thru issues, he had the decency and the sensitivity to meet at a public place. And did not set up a meeting for sex like u guys hv done in the past. Comeon, hes just a casual frnd and your not in a relationship with him. If i wana talk thru personal issues with a frnd, thats how things go…u meet over dinr or coffee or just a walk for few hours. They hear you out and maybe give their views on how best to negotiate thru the issues. Thats what happened.
Liz Lemon
I agree with Tammy, you were expecting too much. This is a guy you have a history of hooking up with. You don’t even know if he has a girlfriend or is seeing anyone (if there’s a chance he has a girlfriend then what were you expecting?!)
He’s a FWB. He treated you like a friend. You expected way too much, he’s not your boyfriend. I think it was actually very considerate of him to make time for you when he’s got a another friend in the mental ward that he’s been supporting all weekend.
Kim
Maybe Sunday is his only free day? Some people work you know. As others have said you were expecting way too much from this. Sounds like he was just being a good friend to you and didn’t mind to hang out but you want more than that. He may have a girlfriend, so maybe that’s why he’s keeping things short.
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