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carlotta.
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June
I am an 18 year virgin, who for some reason has become too horny. Now, I cherish my virginity and all and literally everyone around me treasures it like a chest of gold. So this makes me feel guilty when I have have such thoughts and recently I have simply started seeing this guy, whose intentions are unknown. So I am very confused about how to look at this, because on one hand I want to take a step forward but on the other hand, I am not completely sure what to think of losing it.
Raven
Vibrator…
Crisula
I’m puzzled as to why you feel guilty about being horny
Charlotte
I think it’s worth it. Virginity isn’t a huge deal in my opinion, but if you want to have sex just do. It’s all about how you feel about it and look at it. Don’t do it if you’re going to beat yourself up about it.
Amanda
I would wait until you have a boyfriend, at least someone who cares for you. Many women get very emotional about sex, especially the first time. It is good for your mental health that the first guy you sleep with isn’t one to just go awol. In any case, make sure whoever it is has no STD’s, you use protection, you have had all 3 of your hpv shots, etc. And if you are horny, yeah a vibrator works!
peggy
I am with Amanda-Not only would I not lose my virginity to a hook-up-I would decide not to be a hook-up kind of girl-ever. You will have more control over your body and emotions and save getting into painful situations or getting emotionally crushed when you realise you want and deserve more.
Gr
I would say go for it if you have an emotional connection otherwise masturbate. Yeah I just said that.
L
‘Everyone around you treasures it?’ get out the chasity belt.
carlotta
As someone who has had a few hookups and had sex in relationships, when I look back at my sex life I can say I look back on the hookups with a little regret. As I’ve gotten older I’ve come to place more value and self-worth on my body, and now see sex as an intimate connection between two people. I wish I hadn’t had as many hookups, though they were with men I knew pretty well and not one-night stands or randoms, they were not very fulfilling, only rarely was the sex good enough to be “worth it.” I usually ended up wishing I hadn’t because they hadn’t done anything that I felt I should have so freely shared that part of myself.
Not everyone sees sex this way. Many people see sex as something that feels good and just do with whomever on a whim. As long as they are practicing safe sexual health, there’s nothing wrong with that either. The thing is, when I was younger I had a different opinion than I do now, and as with most things I look back on my choices as pretty stupid. Hindsight is always 20/20, but with something that CAN be as meaningful as sex, and may remain meaningful for you, just ask yourself, in 10 years will you answer this question in the same way?
You have your whole life to have sex. That opportunity is never going away. In the meantime as others have suggested there are ways to get off without having sex.
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