is it worth it to tell him off??

Keep in mind you are not a helpless victim being taking advantage of.
At any point you can choose to move on and begin to heal.
If this situation is no longer appealing to you simply wish him well and move forward.
Don’t make any more excuses for staying with someone who isn’t adding to your happiness. The choice is yours.
Either stay stuck in something that has a dead end or free yourself to an endless path.

Oops typo it wouldn’t make you feel better*

Do not tell him off. You have already made yourself desperate by staying with him even though he treats you poorly. Telling him off will lower you further in his eyes and chip away more at your self esteem. Stop contacting him. If he contacts you with something generic like, Hope you’re having a good day, just don’t respond. If he asks you a question or wants to take you out, just tell him you wish him the best but you think it wise not to continue.

That’s good. You’ll feel much better about the way you handled things, if not right in this moment, down the road.

And I totally get wanting to lay into someone. A year ago, I had a guy ghost on me after three months of dating. We had been exclusive and he had started referring to me as his girlfriend so this wasn’t casual. And then POOF! gone. I envisioned all the ways I would tell him what a crappy person he was. The ladies here convinced me to let it go, not contact him and move on. It was hard because I felt like he deserved my wrath.
In the end I took the advice and let it go. When I look back on it today I’m really proud that I didn’t let him get the best of me.

Soon you’ll be glad you took responsibility for yourself and made the adult decision to end things and take care of yourself.

thanks so much ladies. I really wanted to tell him what a selfish jerk he was being and how badly he was making me feel. but you all made me realize that I was actually just mad at myself, and really only a tiny bit at him :)
and I didn’t want to come across as more desperate than I already have made myself. I’m actually happy I told him, because like I mentioned, it was something I’ve been wanting to do for awhile. I’m sure I’ll be upset in a few days. but right now I’m proud of myself for FINALLY being a strong person <3

Well you said it yourself you are drained and tired of making all the effort and he seems to not care if you are in his life or not.

I suggest you leave him alone. Do not reach out, do not text, email, send smoke signals….NOTHING!

Let him come to you. Don’t jump right away…make him wait it out.
If he texts–wait to respond at least a few hours, if not a whole day.
If he calls–let it go to voicemail and depending on his tone, what he says…call back a few hours or day or so later. When you do be prepared to stand your ground…let him make plans, come to you…put in the effort.

Also, be ready to send him away. Since you are not happy with the turn this has taken, you need to feel as if you are taking the reins again. If you send him away, you made the decision instead of letting him pull the strings. Something along the lines of …. while I enjoy hearing about how your new life is going, I don’t feel its in my best interest to continue with something that has no future. I think it’s best if we take the good memories with us as we move forward separately. I wish you nothing but happiness and hopefully someone at your level to share it with….you send him away with a slight dig. You move forward knowing that you can and will get someone that is worth you and at your level.

If you decide to let this continue…be sure you are getting what you want, that you feel good about your time and actions. Do not allow this to bring you down….a happy girl is a sexy girl…everyone wants sexy in their lives.