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mark_train
I(25M) have been dating a girl(22F) for a couple of weeks now. Due to our schedules not really working out and living somewhat far away from each other, we only saw each other about 5 or 6 times. Dates have been great, I enjoy talking to her and we always have fun. Corona makes everything a bit more complicated (i.e. can’t really go to bars, etc.) but taking walks has been surprisingly fun.
The thing is: somewhere around date three we kissed, but after that nothing more happened. I know she didn’t mind the kiss (that at least what she indicated), but she also said she doesn’t want to rush into things. I’m fine with taking it slow, but I have a hard time figuring out with what she is comfortable and what not at a given time. I’m not the most experienced person and I don’t consider myself very good in reading people, which makes this even more difficult…
Since I can’t figure it out on my own, the only solution I see is to talk to her. I’m rather straight forward in most things, so I don’t really mind just asking, but I’m not sure if that is a smart approach in this situation. Would be nice to get some advice on how to approach this…
PS. Not sure if it’s important, but we have another date lined up in two weeks.
Raven
How far is ‘somewhat’ far?
mark_train
@Raven About 1.5 hours one way..
Raven
Why not find a girl closer?
mark_train
I guess I could, but I like her and think shes worth at least trying.
Raven
What do you hope to accomplish with a girl that is a 3 hour round trip that you can only see every other week or so?
How often do you communicate by phone or text?
Lane
I would just keep it PG for awhile until you get to know her better. Then you can navigate the physical areas after you get to know her better.
She likes you or she would keep seeing you but it’s far too early to know how you gel in so many areas which is what dating is about. The physical is just one part of the whole pie so I would work on learning more about her interests, beliefs, goals, traits, quirks, etc. because if those areas fail then no amount of physical is going to make it work.
If the kiss was good, the stick with that, plus maybe holding her hand to see how she responds. Take your time as its not a race but a journey. Good luck.
mark_train
@Raven No offense, but I’m not really sure how the answer to any of your questions would change a potential solution to my (fortunately now already solved) problem.
@Lane Thanks a lot for the advice. That’s pretty much what I’ve done since the kiss and it turns out, it was the right move.. We just had a chat over phone over some non-sense that happened during the day and at the end she brought the topic up herself (i.e. about being a bit vague with what she is fine and what not). She apologized, made it clear what works for her right now and she was super happy to hear that I wanted to talk about it as well. So as far as I’m concerned, great outcome!
@Emily Well, I’ll have to disappoint you, but this is my first time posting here. If I’ve done something out of the ordinary or if my question is not on topic for the site, feel free to delete it. Also, if something is off with my language, as a non-native speaker, I’m always happy to improve.
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