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Viva
Met a guy via dating app. Went on 2 dates. Nothing weird. Except that we would run out of topics to talk about on call and the 3 and half hour dates we had.
However, among other memes one that he sent me was where there was a picture of a girl’s feet and the meme said your feet are too pretty to be on the ground, need a shoulder. Is this so early on a red flag? I am not looking to s*xting or flirting this way with him. Barely know him. Is this weird and something that i should be worried about regarding his intentions?
Ewa
how often do you see each other and how often you call /text? I think initially you should be calling and texting too much at the beginning, that is why you don’t have a lot to talk about when you finally meet.
You should be getting to know him in real life not over phone.
Regarding that meme, hard to say, cause maybe he didn’t even know what he was doing, he might have sent it without thinking too much about it. Just watch him and if you see this pattern then feel free to stand your ground.
The we ran out of things to talk bit is more worrying for me, because it sort of shows he is not trying to get to know you unless you both don’t talk much.
If he isn’t asking you questions, trying to get to know the real you then he is here for a good time not for a long time.Viva
We talked a lot in the initial one week. Then met on the next weekend. It’s difficult for me to meet during weekdays because of work schedule. Our work timings don’t match either. I had to cancel to meet once because of work. And he had cancelled another time. Now we keep in touch with “what are you doing” , “when should we meet” kinda questions. But no getting to know sessions have been started by him since then. Atleast i don’t think we talk that much. But even i struggle to find topics to talk about after a while. But we’ve talked about all the major things: education, family, food, shows, work, general overview of past relationships, trips etc. As i type i can see there are more stories to tell. But is it okay if i ask questions to know him if he isn’t taking the lead?
Tammy
Yeah its ok to ask.. but maybe you guys are not a great fit? Hving nothing to talk abt so soon is not a gud sign for me.
Liz Lemon
If you’re struggling to find things to talk about after 2 dates, you’re not a match. It’s pretty simple. Also you can’t seem to find time to meet– that’s another sign you don’t click.
If this guy were right for you, you’d feel chemistry and have plenty to talk about. And you’d want to get together, you’d find a way to make it work and see each other.
I’ll add that generally speaking, guys bond through activities, not from sitting around talking. If you want to click with a guy, you should get together and do something– some kind of activity, even just a walk/hike, or a bike ride, a trip to a museum, or dinner and a movie. You’ll find it easier to connect with guys that way. Don’t sit on the phone talking to a stranger, that’s the worst way to bond with a guy. Get together and do stuff in person.
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