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M
I am on day 11 of no contact and I thought of something that I am not sure if it is breaking NC or not. So on Snapchat, there are people’s stories and the people who post them can see who views them. If I view my Ex’s Snapchat story is that breaking No Contact?
Ashley
first I’d say you shouldn’t even have him on your snapchat anymore. I don’t have snapchat, but is “viewing” it like “liking” a photo on instagram? if so then I would say yes it’s breaking it because you’re indirectly showing him you’re giving him the time of day. I think you shouldn’t even be following him on there..
Vpink1986
I’m only in day 3 of no contact.. I say delete everything you have on connection with him phone number delete it from your phone. Any social networks that’s connected to him delete as well..
Gemini615
Most no contact rules I’ve seen include no checking up on any form of his social media during the no contact, at least for 30 days. So yes, that could be considered breaking it.
But like Ashley said you really shouldn’t have him added on snapchat anymore anyway. Idk how snapchat works but if there is a way to remove him I suggest you do that.
Honestly though, no contact “rules” are a bit silly sometimes, especially because a lot of people do it to get the person back and that becomes their main focus instead of doing it to truly move on.
You shouldn’t be interacting with him at all on Social media because you need to be concentrating on yourself and moving on from him. So don’t look at snapchat or Facebook or whatever else; for your own sanity and peace of mind it’s much better that way if you don’t know what he’s up to.
SthrnBelle
Any form of contact can really hurt especially social media because you see he is fine and active or at least seems so. This is like torturing yourself. Also letting him know that you still care and you are feeding his ego by that, stop doing that. I think NC is comprehensive NC. Only that way does it work. Unfriend him everywhere and stop following him.
Rose
Delete him from your life and move on. That’s what no contact is. As in no contact, no viewing, no stalking, no nothing, nada.
You should be trying forget about him instead.
And yes, you broke the no contact because now he thinks you want him to talk to you.
M
UPDATE: When i say “No Contact” i mean like the no contact rule… like the one you use to get your ex back… not like to try and get over him…
Hannah
Yes I think it is. You have to totally dissapear from someone’s life. So why did you split up? Getting an ex back is very difficult unless under certain circumstances.
Gemini615
No contact is not to be used to get your ex back. Please don’t make the mistake of thinking you will end up with him if you go no contact. He will come back eventually but not in the way you think. It is very rare that an ex gets back in contact because they have truly changed and want another chance with you. Most times it is for an ego stroke, out of boredom, or for sex. The same issues you had before will resurface, this is why most reconciliations do not last because the original issues still remain. I know you want to believe your situation is the rare exception, but the odds are about as good as you winning the lottery.
You need to be using no contact to move on. If you are doing it for any other reason than to move on, you are wasting time and holding yourself back. This relationship is over and you need to move forward.
SthrnBelle
Second Gemini and some others.
Seriously, there is no way of getting an ex back, anyone who thinks there is one is a fool. Going no contact is for you and everything should now be about you and not about him. It is about letting go, as in really letting go for your own good and being able to breathe, relax, feel good about you and your life, learning that you are worthy and good with or without a partner. It is one of the most difficult things but you have to ignore everything about him to achieve inner peace.
Think of it as a person who has died, he is gone from your life, he does not exist, you grieve and you learn to live without this person. It is never easy.
Again there is no tactic to get someone back and this would only be to feed our egos, a simple thing based on infatuation but not true love. Yes, they tend to come back but for the reasons Gemini stated above. But you also cannot expect them to come back, you have to accept the fact that he may never even speak to you again and perhaps for the better or like it has happened to me, sometimes they resurface years later, as in really? It is never for a serious relationship either, usually sex and their egos.
Sidney Jenkins
I think anyone who argues that there are ANY standard rules that apply to all relationships is reasoning in a distorted way. Case in point: years ago, my ex broke things off with me when she met a man who wooed her with flattery and seductive gestures – and she left me. But I fought, and fought hard, to get her back – first by getting her to agree to a FWB situation, and then by dating someone else in front of her and making her white hot with jealousy. I also won her back with gifts, made a huge dinner for us.
On the face of it this seems to cut against the grain of every no contact rule ever written. But guess what? She ditched the other guy and we were together for years after that. So you never know. Nothing is written in stone.
Emma
“But I fought, and fought hard, to get her back – first by getting her to agree to a FWB situation, and then by dating someone else in front of her and making her white hot with jealousy.” – a new age definition of fight hard for oyur woman. LOL Oh wait, add one huge dinner to it.
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