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Jessica
Is it normal for guys to still remain hard after sex? This happened to me for the first time and I’m wondering if this is normal or was he not satisfied? I am so confused.
Better off single
Why question it? Why would you not be thrilled about that and go for another round?
ConfusedBlonde
I’m with ‘Better off single’! This has happened before to me and is not an issue. If he came and seems satisfied, don’t question it. Can always give it another go. My ex stayed hard after sex but said he was too sensitive for a while afterwards which I took as a win :) don’t stress perfectly normal!
Dangerouse
Yes, its normal. The area is simply filled with blood and it sometimes doesn’t drain out right away. Its nothing to do with the partner.
Anderson
We are just strangers and can only speculate. You need to ask the hardness this question yourself. Don’t send a text. Do it face to face.
Dangerouse
You don’t need to ask, I’ve already explained it.
Anderson
I saw your explanation. But she should still have a head-to-head to get to the truth.
Liz Lemon
Agree with both Dangerouse and Anderson. It’s normal, it can happen. But you should also communicate with him about it. This happens with my current partner- he stays quite hard for a long time after “finishing” (lucky me, haha) and I had never seen it before, so of course I asked him about it the first time it happened. It’s a (very) pleasant joke between us now.
This is the kind of thing you need to be comfortable talking about if you’re going to be sexually active with someone.
Jessica
Do you think he will get upset about me asking about it? Should I ignore it and wait until next time?
Anderson
I was actually just being childish and making subtle sexual innuendos, lol.
But Liz’s last line is spot on. Sex is not just about the act but also communicating your curiosities about it. It actually builds intimacy. It’s sad how many people are afraid to ask the innocent questions with the person they’re sleeping with.
Liz Lemon
I can’t imagine why he’d be upset if you asked? My boyfriend is quite proud of it :-)
But Anderson is right. You need to be comfortable communicating about sex. It’s more than just the physical act. Especially in a relationship, but even if it’s just a FWB, you need to be able to talk about it.
Jessica
Do you think a guy would lie and say he enjoyed it if he didn’t? I’m not sure how to bring up the subject to him.
jessica
Anyone?
Liz Lemon
You seem really insecure about this. Do you think he didn’t enjoy it? What makes you ask the question?
To be blunt, if he came, then I’m sure he enjoyed it.
Newbie
This question reminded me of a story of women hiring male escorts and a lot of them were actually more concerned if the escort was satisfied.
But in this case, why worry so much? First time sex can be awkward. It takes a while to feel each other right. If he comes back for more, you have your answerJ
If he came and you saw it yes it’s completely normal. If he didn’t and you know he didn’t cum then no.
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