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Jessie
Because I know he and I are on the same page in terms of not wanting children anymore. I’m not even supposed to be fertile, I’m in my 40s with children from my previous marriage and my BF also has children from his previous marriage. I have severe scarring in my uterus as a result from a c-section years ago and have not even needed any form of contraception because my doctor even told me it would be impossible for me to fall pregnant, let alone sustain a pregnancy. Especially with my age, there are so many risks.
I am very early on as I just found out yesterday, and would be eligible for the medical termination (pill), in which I can do from the privacy of my own home.
I’m wondering if it would be in my best interest, and my boyfriend’s to just not mention it. The bleeding could be the same as just a longer, heavier period so I wouldn’t have to really explain things. And telling him might just create more drama and I really don’t want to shake things up. Yet, I do feel like he has a right to know. I’m right in the middle. Would love some advice please everyone. Thanks.
Gaia
You should do what is right for you and your body. Personally, I think it may need to be discussed with your boyfriend for several reasons… 1. He is your partner. I’m assuming long-term with a future by your ages/experiences. 2. You may need his support. What if you have a reaction or complication? Then you’d have to explain the situation anyway. 3. This is a personal thing for me: Lying by omission is just as bad as lying. And I cannot condone lying in any fashion. You’d have to live with the guilt of not telling your boyfriend.
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Why would you not tell your bf? Are you afraid he suddenly wants to keep it?
Of course telling or not is entirely your decision but i can tell you i totally understand terminating this pregnancy and if he is a good and understanding guy i assume he would be too.
Because how logical it is to terminate, you could still be emotional over it. As could he. Take care -
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