Just read my boyfriend and his ex's texts : (

This is conditioning… The future of a relationship like this reads… “I didn’t know though” over and over and over again. Because you’re basically excusing that his own brain isn’t competent enough to figure out that texting his ex during our courtship probably isn’t the most considerate thing to do. Hey, I get that they may have history or a strong connection or blah blah blah and that’s cool but don’t involve me unless you’ve figured that out because to invest and sincerely care about me means that you understand that your behavior affects me and something like that would be hurtful.

Hi,

I am writing to this post because I am the ex girlfriend of a guy who is currently married. We dated for a few months when I was 19 and he was 26. I am currently 30 and he is 37, but he watched me grow up and we have a bond that is very hard to break. He does not cheat on his wife, nor did he with any of his girlfriends, but he looks after me, writes to me to see if I’m okay and is there for me when I cry. He cares for me, but this does not mean that he loves me or that he ever will be. Sometimes someone has made an impression in your life and it is hard to ever lost the care for that person.

This being said, I was also in your situation – the current girlfriend of someone who had an ex and they were still in contact. I never made any demands for him to stop speaking to her, because that would have been hypocritical of me, but he ended up cheating on me multiple times and will be marrying her this summer. It is difficult to break bonds and to replace memories once they have been built… I don’t suggest you try to do that.. the best course of action is really to make him smile, to make him feel as though he is so lucky to have you, and that perhaps he can truly and genuinely love again.. The option option you have is to potentially find someone who can be solely and completely into you. Whatever course of action you take, try not to argue with him, as he will just slip out of your arms and feel closer to her…

Well honey the same happend to me but mine was the worst.cause
1.I was married he had still contact until our first anniversary
2.we were engaged for a year and they met they texted each other sayin i love you and moreeee
3.he said that she will be in his heart forever
Other things too but i won’t talk about