Just split and I can't cope

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March 22, 2020 at 4:02 pm #788156 Reply

Anon 2

Together 4years and just split a few days ago due to not being able to stand his lack of support during hard times and him never owning up to his part in any problems that cropped up in the relationship…so it was always me. Anyway I eventually had enough and I’ve left but I’m not coping at all…feel panicky and claustrophobic. Plus I’m sleeping on my brothers couch til I find something which might not happen for a while due to this virus. Any advice on coping with the panic and the need to go back to get rid of the pain I’m in??? This is only my second ever long time relationship which I thought was for life. Gutted, scared and anxious

March 22, 2020 at 4:06 pm #788158 Reply

redcurleysue

You made big changes – and we are all facing big changes. Do not despair. Take safe walks – eat right – watch some comedies – make popcorn. Start a journal and write down your feelings – then release them to the heavens and praise God. Things could be much worse – thank God you have a loving family.

March 22, 2020 at 7:25 pm #788162 Reply

T from NY

I’m so sorry for your breakup! It’s an anxious time right now for everyone, let alone this. I have found in times past when I was anxious that the grounding method of 5,4,3,2,1 is really good. (You can google it). Try to get quiet somewhere and figure out what you need to feel emotionally safe, and although you’ll be in pain, how you can feel the least spinning out.

I want to point out – Good for you! Leaving a relationship that wasn’t supportive or reciprocal. Both partners should be there for each other, as well as own their part in disagreements. Hold to that. That you were looking out for YOU above all else. Each of us should no matter how long the association.

These crazy times make is feel acutely how much we can lose, but also what we already HAVE. Take comfort in your self love and your ability to make positive changes. Sit in your sadness. It sucks. But it’s needful. Seek calm. Give it time. You’ll get past all of this.
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