kiss then ghost?

you need to have a significant relationship in order to be ghosted. after one or 2 dates, if a person loses interest, they don’t owe you a breakup. it could be that she’s trying to convey she’s not interested by limiting communication. it could be that she wants you to chase her. it could be that she’s simply busy at work and doesn’t have time for texting. or maybe you’re upset because unlike other girls she’s not texting you. just follow your gut. if you text and she responds, if it’s a warm response, text again. if it’s a cold response, don’t

It’s been one day and you’re talking about being ghosted… First of all, it’s up to you to initiate contact at this stage. Second, give it at least a week before you jump to conclusions.

Guys I went blunt yesterday and kinda drew her out-

I said if she wants to meet me again, her texting pattern indicate otherwise, and I am trying to be genuine

Her response was the same story she gave me in person even before we started kissing-

Shes busy with work, not ready for a relationship, excuse me for not being responsible
(english is her second language so i don’t know what she exactly meant with the last word)

I responded that I’m not trying to get serious right away, just looking for a date, will ask her about it next week and probably the week after.

Her response- I’m being realistic with you, i don’t think i’ll have time for a date in the immediate future.

I got even more blunt- I asked if it was because of schedule or because you don’t feel up to it with me, and she said it was the schedule.

I said we’ll play it by ear because I want to kiss her again, and that’s the end of our text.

Now my experience tells me I should drop this. But also I’ve never had someone go cold on me after all that kissing.

So I kinda wanna gently, verrry gently, pursue her. maybe a text a week just to say hello and ask for a date. 2 of those and then I can drop it.

Is this acceptable?

She does seem pretty career driven. Her fb profile is very work obsessive. She matched me in my city where she came for a weekend getaway. I think she was just looking for a quick friend to hangout with and it turned rather intimate.

And she was really shy with the first kiss which I always know to be a good sign.

And no, this was during daytime, sober, mind you.

And if anything I seem to have more baggage than her.

So all that innocent kindling to something that could be a relationship, and then suddenly nothing.

Yup, I am confused.

How old are you? It doesn’t matter how *busy* a lady is, if she’s truly interested in a guy she will clear her schedule and make room for him, when they aren’t, they don’t. You can keep trying but something tells me this is more about the challenge than it is in her, as a person. Are you not use to ladies who don’t have a desire to date you? Just seem’s odd that you can’t discern the difference between a lady who’s interested and one who’s not.

So what??? I’ve kissed guy’s and had zero interest in dating them, and it didn’t matter how good the kiss was. Not all woman are shallow, superficial or become interested just because of a kiss. Trust me, there was something about you, something you might have said, or the way you acted on the date, and she had already made up her mind she wasn’t interested in dating you. I’ve had great kisses after bad dates and it was never enough to change my mind. I’ve also had bad kisses after great dates and I would go on another date, not because of the kiss but because of their personality, the way they talked, acted or behaved that piqued my interest enough to want to get to know them better. I actually married one haha.