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Sahra.
Sahra
Hi everyone I need some help with a long distance guy. I been speaking to this guy for almost 8months and up until recently everything was great, we talk about lots of cuddles and wanting to be close we have always been quite loving but out of the blue he said I’m needy when I mention cuddles which I’m not . So I have tried to distance myself a little and now his massaging say he wants me close and to hold me I’m really confused how do I go about this ?
Lane
Why are you wasting your time talking to a guy for 8 months??? If you live too far to see each other and build a real life in-person relationship then what’s the point? You have built up a false fantasy and reality is now catching up with you. He was just using you by throwing out some ‘flowery words’ and is either bored or found an actual body to cuddle up to.
Sorry but he doesn’t want to *e-cuddle* (look up “e-tether”) with you anymore.
Sahra
We talk about alot more than kisses and cuddles so I felt I was getting to know him . We did plan to meet after Christmas and still talk about it but I couldn’t get the time off work and now it’s on hold . After the needy comment I have distance myself and now his saying he wants me and needs to be close but I dont know how to approach him back and he wants to know what’s wrong
Lane
You back off and tell him that long distance is not sustainable and if he is unable to bridge the distance you need to end it. Yeah it will suck for a bit but if you spent more of your time meeting guy’s in real life then it will be easier to get over him.
Sahra
Don’t think I am over here letting him stop me living my life I am open to a closer relationship. I struggled to be intimate with guys thats I have ended up talk to this man for so long as we have a lot in common and it isn’t always about sex and that’s what I like. Basically I can’t shake him out my head and I know it’s silly. Ignoring him is just making him message me more …
Tallspicy
No one is telling you to ignore him we are telling you to end it. That calls for you to be an adult and say that unless you can bridge the gap in a specific period of time to meet each other that you will stop talking to him. I have done it. You simply state this is no longer working for me and if we can’t resolve it I’m going to need to wish you well.
Sahra
Thank you, I think I had to hear it this way and for once I am going to put myself first and tell him we meet or goodbye
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