Losing feelings or is he just not the one?

You should cut yourself some slack. You’re in college and this is your first relationship. This is when you’re learning who you are, what you want, what works for you, and what doesn’t and isn’t compatible. Most people who date in college don’t stay together forever because people change and grow a lot over their teens, 20s, and even beyond.

That being said, do you have an insecure attachment style? That can make you lose interest in a steady partner due to unresolved issues that have nothing to do with the partner. Which means you may need to take some time working on yourself. Unfortunately, if you’re just not in a good place for this to be the right relationship for you, then forcing it won’t change that. Timing is important in relationships as is everyone being ready and wanting the same thing. If you can’t put your finger on the problem but you don’t feel good about things, that suggests you may need more time and experiences with different people and possibly even some discussions with a professional to figure out what’s right and healthy and compatible for you. If it’s not your current boyfriend and if it’s going to take you too long to figure things out to get there and that’s unfair to him, it’s okay to want to end the relationship and do what’s best for yourself. If you do have an insecure attachment style it can make dating very difficult, but it’s also something that can be addressed and healed, especially with a therapist.

Thank you guys, I appreciate this. I’m not sure if I have an anxious attachment style, I’d honestly hadn’t thought about it before. Just an update, I broke up with him. I don’t know if I regret it because a major detail I left out was it had a lot to do with my mom. I always like to keep relationships and parents separate, but over this weekend when my bf came to visit me, we were having a fight and those two kept having conversations about me and she just would keep giving her input when I asked them not to do that. It’s like they drove me to the brink of insanity that I ended up breaking up with him because whenever we had a problem, he would involve my mom by asking for advice and then she would get angry at me and call me selfish. After I got into another fight with her today, I called my bf and told him that now just was not good timing and that I didn’t think being together was a good idea. He knows my issue is my mom’s over involvement and what does he do? I found out an hour later that he told my mom in the form of “saying goodbye and wishing them well.” I get he meant well, but I specifically asked him NOT to do that. So now I just feel terrible. Partly because I broke up with him even though he doesn’t deserve it, and I don’t know if I did the right thing or not. He still has to come visit me to pick up his AirPods when I return to college, so maybe we’ll talk him. I do miss him, and I’m sad and confused.