Men who Send Selfies

Got one last night and told him he was part girl, LOL.

It’s weird!!!

Although I have done it, but I’m a girl! It’s just not a “guy” thing to do unless they have some sort of deep issue.

I think women overthink things men do. Men are pretty simple creatures who want attention and to be recognized and appreciated. I believe they send you selfies because they are not with you in person and deep down, they wish they were. In this day of technology, I only see it for what it is; modern communication. :)

This guy I’ve been texting from a dating website has sent me so many selfies! He’s almost 30 and the man sent me 4 selfies in one day…. is this normal? Like I feel like I can’t even have a normal conversation with him without a selfie being a response! I’m just creeper out by it! This is the second guy I’ve talked to who has done this. My first serious boyfriend would send me a selfie everyday. A part of me thought it was a little odd at the time, but I brushed it off. He turned out to be a horrible person. I’m scared this guy I’m talking to now is gonna be the same. Are constant selfies from a guy normal?

Not normal. Either they have a major insecurity & want you to validate them or narcissistic. “Normal” guys rarely take selfies. There’s a guy I started talking to who sent so many pointless selfies to me every day on snapchat that I deleted snapchat! 😂 then he sent a pointless video of just his face on text & I didn’t respond & he never texted again which shows he was doing it for insecurity reasons as opposed to just sharing stuff. I mean not all guys who take more than the occasional picture are crazy, maybe some really do it for sharing purposes but more often than not they are crazy lol. I’ve never met one who wasn’t. It’s just not something dudes do. Unless it’s for their “brand” or trying to inspire people on their website or social media, the dude probably has an issue

I’ve come across this behavior– the only guys who send facial selfies etc have severe, deep rooted insecurity issues. They’re narcissistic and need constant verbal affirmation and communication that they’re great– they look great and their life is great. Red flag, right away. Seriously. I initially always took it like they wanted to include me in their life– but trust me, that’s not it.

I had a selfie sent yesterday. We had been facebook chatting all day and then later in at night I was like night no you should sleep and he said I ccan’t I said why he said I don’t know and sent a selfie with a sad face (It was a boreal face selfie I dint hunk he was trying to look attractive at all) I didn’t know how to respond … I feel like they do it to see if we like them bit I’m confused Im not sure ..
He hasn’tttexted me in ages and I inniated the conversation .. he seems Iinterested but I he gives me mixed signals
I have never met this guy

What’s the point of taking with a guy online you have never met or isn’t asking you out? It’s probably not vein his own pic. You could be chatting with his mother for all you know.

Yes you are! I don’t get why women insist on communicating with strangers who they never met and have no plans to meet up with. What is the point?

And, he is someone that I have gone out with twice now. I like him thus far, but it’s very new. I’m sure I’ll talk to him and possibly see him tomorrow as he and I live close by one another, but I don’t want to have a long convo about “sending unsolicited selfies”. I definitely don’t do it, because I think it’s weird, especially in new dating situations.

I’m all for it in an established longer term relationship, but when it’s new and you’ve seen and spent time within 24 hours, I just don’t think it’s necessary to send selfies – both people have seen one another face to face. Save the selfies, especially unsolicited, let the person ask, unless you look like Chris Pine or Chris Hemsworth.😄

So I think some women are missing the point. Men send selfies not for validation, or at least not mostly, but because they want you to send them back. Many send them as a way in to sexting. The hope is that you will send them back and they will gradually get more sexual etc.

Jeff so he claims he is straight but he knows you are bi? How often do yo see him in person? it does sound like he is flirting. Seems like a closeted dude who is hoping to get something from you. I find it very hard to believe that a plain friend would send you a ton of random selfies. By the way, what do you mean you “went on vacation”? That seems an odd thing to do with a casual friend.

Well sounds like he is interested and struggling with the thought of coming out. I find it very hard to believe a straight guy would do what you described. Are you into him?

Amanda ,
Last week we went away – the day before he sent me a pic on Snapchat in the condom aisle of a pharmacy . – the whole week – we hung out – I actually came out to him – he was cool with me being who I am. I said I swing both ways – he said he only swings one way – and then told my friend he hasn’t found the “right person” But nothing – he didn’t even hookup with anyone else – were home now – going out to dinner this week and talked about our next getaways . I think he’s still scared – not sure

The guy I’m seeing does this. He has also sent me photos of his penis and even his arsehole – all unrequested. I find it a turn off and had to tell him to stop.

I’m unsure if I want to be with him due to lack of chemistry and did wonder if it’s the lack of chemistry that stops me from finding his “selfies” a turn on. Either way I don’t like them and I’m not sure I’m going to stay with him sadly. He’s the in out to be more of a friend as there is no passion or spark at all. I’ve waited three months for it to blossom.