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Mary.
Jane
Ladies,
If you unintentionally acted a bit needy or clingy toward a guy just once in the time you’ve been casually been dating them and it really annoyed him and hasn’t spoken for a few days would there be any chance at all that I could get him back? We get on so well. Like we’ve known each other for years. We can be our true selves with each other and we make each other laugh and we get each other. We click so well and we make each other smile. I acted a bit needy and he wasn’t very happy with me and we’ve not spoken for 4 days now.
I know I messed up but it was so unintentional and I do miss him.
What can I do? :(
Natz
If you have already apologised now go no contact. Let him be. Don’t reach out to him don’t text don’t call. It has to be him that comes to you.
Liz Lemon
How long have you been dating this guy? You said you’re seeing him “casually”, are you exclusive? How often does he take you out on dates?
I’m asking these questions because a guy who’s really into will not be put off by a one-time act of clinginess or neediness (I’m assuming it was nothing excessive, and that you aren’t normally clingy or needy). If you read articles on this website, you’ll see that guys move towards what feel good. If it feels good to be with you, as in there’s no drama, it’s relaxed, and he can be himself– he’ll want to be with you. He won’t stop speaking to you just because of one minor incident.
I’m wondering how “casual” you and this guy are? And how long you’ve been dating, whether he’s seeing other women, and whether he takes you out regularly? Those things will indicate how serious he is about you. If he’s cut you off for 4 days over something minor, I suspect he was never that serious about you- sorry to be blunt.
Natz is right, you just have to leave him be. Don’t contact him or try to beg his forgiveness. If he had serious intentions towards you, he will reach out. If he doesn’t, you know he wasn’t that serious.
Tammy
I agree with above posters. If you hv apologised thn let him be. If he values this frndhip, he wont be put off by one incident.he will revert. If he doesnt then well he was never really a friend.
Raven
You’ve already posted this as Jessica?
Mary
You need to lopk at the real picture. You are trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. He is withdrawing because he knows you want something more from him that he cannot give you.
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