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Kaylli
Hi, I need some serious dating advice cause I’m in a major pickle here. I met this amazing person on T*inder.
1. We’ve been talking like all the time. We’ve been sharing all our deep secrets and stuff, like family drama, past relationships and our future goal.
2. He consistently sends me pictures of his daily life, sometimes of his cool hiking trips, other times just his grinning face. I’ve been sending pics too.
3. We’ve been flirting heavily, and it’s been so much fun. We’ve exchanged compliments, and he’s even made some hints about wanting to meet up. But he hasn’t asked me out officially.
I can’t help but overthink things now. Is he losing interest, or am I not making my interest clear enough? I don’t want to miss out on something potentially amazing. What should I do? How can I take things to the next level without scaring him off?
Ewa
you do what sorry? you share your life story with a complete stranger over text?
is this guy even real or is he stealing photos from someone else’s instagram?
If he has not met you within 2 weeks , then he is not going to meet you. Chances are he is married and looking for a bit of attention on the side.
Assuming you’ve only just started talking then be honest and say I enjoyed our chat but I am looking to meet someone in real life and hope you feel the same , if he comes up with some excuses then you’ll have your answer and you will have to take it from there.
It happened to me many times but I don’t engage (text) with men for more than a week, otherwise it is a waste of my time.Raven
He’s not amazing. He’s wasting your time.
Liz Lemon
Agree with the above. He’s a time waster, unfortunately there are a lot of those out there. It’s actually very simple — a guy who is serious about dating will ask to meet you. Guys who text endlessly just to chat and flirt just want attention. How long have you been texting?
Ewa gave good advice, just tell him you’ve enjoyed chatting but are looking to meet guys in person. I’m willing to bet he makes excuses not to meet, in which case you should just stop communicating with him.
AngieBaby
How long has this been going on??
This isn’t healthy and you’re setting yourself up for a major disappointment when you meet. If you ever meet, because I agree with the others, I question if he’s for real if he’s not asking you out.
Stop feeding this fantasy, tell him you’re online to meet people in person and you’re ready to meet him and to let you know the time and place, but I’m also with the others, that he will probably try to keep you talking without making a date or will disappear entirely. What you are describing is the MO of a person who is not available for a relationship for whatever reason and is online just to play.
Mary
It’s an implied understanding that Tinder is for hookups and not for anything serious. It sounds like he is baiting you to reel you in for that. Lose his number. If he was interested in a relationship, he would have asked you out by now.
Tammy
The most basic rule of online dating is to meet the man soon after you guys connect if there seems mutual interest and a connect. Thats the only way to eliminate time wasters, cat fishing and all kinds of deceipts and fraud. You do not share or get intimate online with a complete stranger. Your not just heading for a disappointment but also leaving room wide open for all kinds of trouble for yourself.
First thing i do if i find the guy intrsting is to luk him up on either linked in and other social media platforms. Also i do not share my life history, past relatnships, my financial status etc . I do not share the name of the place whr i work. Lady you need to take care when you engage with men thru online dating aps. More often thn not they lie, post fake profiles, give sm sob stories, try to extract money from you, get you in bed, etc . Its your duty to be on your guard and eliminate the bluffers!
Tammy
Not to mention the psychos!!! Online chatting creates a false sens of intimacy and draws you in. But this is all la la land and virtual. Nor real! You hv to be prudent and smart when you go for dating thru online apps. Stay safe.
Harry
You guys haven’t even met in person and you’re already sending him pics? How do you know he’s for real and not just using someone else’s photos? Aren’t you worried he might misuse your pics too? Sorry, but this whole thing sounds kinda sketchy to me.
Kaylli
I am surprised to receive so many replies and suggestions. We exchanged telephone numbers after we match at Tinder (after 1 week) and talked for 13 days. I think I will ask him out for a cup of coffee today. If I get rejected, I will give up and move on. I should not keep wasting time on the wrong person (or a scammer?).
As for exchanging photos and sharing life, I admit I have shared too much. For those who are worried that my photo will be used improperly, this photo should be safe, cause the service I use is that the image disappears within 5 seconds after being seen and it only can be seen once.
Tammy
Thats gud to hear and the fact that u tuk the suggstns in the right spirit. Hasnt he talkd abt meeting at all? Made plans abt meeting?? Ideally he shld ask to meet you for the first time that wld show that atlst hes keen to ctch up in person.
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