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April 21, 2021 at 12:30 pm #861216Padmini
T,
It really appears that you are just momentarily pining for this woman. So just do what you have to on your own—without involving others, especially not that woman—to catharsize yourself. As you have been through divorce and gotten over it, I am certain you can get through this as well.
Regarding her reaction to your behavior, I have done the same in blocking a guy if he behaves too pushily. My belief is that if a guy is too pushy while physically distant from me, there is just no telling how forceful he will be if we were interacting in-person.
I think it is best for both of you that this woman has blocked you out of her life and you do not have in-person access to her. For, either of you in the vulnerable state might spontaneously end-up doing something you regret. My castmate told me that his daughter’s neighbor kept on being pushy in asking her out till she blocked his telephone-number. And once he found-out that she blocked his number, he broke
open her apartment in a fit of rage and ended-up strangling her to the point of death.You seem like you are overall a feeling, compassionate person. Hence, it is best for you and all others that you promptly work towards finding peace with letting this woman go.
Good luck to you! :)
April 21, 2021 at 1:03 pm #861226Peggy
Okay, ow you are sounding seriously crazy and delusional. Stop all contact with her and get some therapy, you have major issues and should not be dating. This is not healthy behavior.
April 21, 2021 at 2:28 pm #861248ANM StaffKeymasterModerator update:
Hello T – I’m going to close-out this discussion thread now. I’m sorry.
I do not believe that your story is fake. I believe you are a person who is hurting, and I believe you need help.
You need to listen to what our community members are telling you: This level of infatuation after a single date, and the things you are doing (like attempting to send diamond earrings after a single date) are not normal. I understand that you don’t like having the term “stalker” used to describe you, and you feel hurt hearing that term. I won’t use that term; instead, I’ll say that the woman you’re interested in is probably feeling harassed – she probably feels like your attention is obsessive and unwanted.
That is probably why she blocked you, and I’m sorry that it hurts so much. But you need to recognize that the people in this discussion thread are giving you important advice and observations. They are very strongly stating that your feelings and behavior are outside the boundaries of “normal”.
You need help and advice from a professional to help you understand why you feel this way. Professional therapy will help guide you understand what is “okay” and “not okay” on dates. If you develop a strong trusting relationship with a therapist, you can learn how to avoid a situation where you feel hurt and confused. A therapist will help you change yourself, and when you partner with a therapist to do this, you will feel encouraged and happy to change.
If you are successful in working with a therapist and changing yourself, then you may become so happy, you won’t feel lonely even when you are not dating. And when you are dating, you will feel confident – so confident, that even if the person does not want another date, you won’t feel any hurt from it.
But you really need to take steps yourself to find a therapist to do this. I believe this forum is helpful, but you are going to need more help than we can give you.
In closing, I will say: Please let go of the woman you dated and do not interact with her. She has blocked you, and that is a clear indication that she no longer wants attention from you. You must respect that. It is wrong to go against that.
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