More than a week of silence, what should I do?

maybe send him a causual text asking how he is etc. I dont know it seems v strange to j not text you for a week for no reason. maybe hes lost his phone or something. did you two argue or anything. have you already slept with him?

yes i agree do not text him that makes sense

You have been out twice, you did not make time to have it be more than 2ce in what amounts to 6-7 weeks. That is not how you build momentum to start anything. I get that you like him, but starting to initiate is not going to do anything but leave you feeling icky.

MEN DO WHAT THEY WANT. Read that again. If you are appreciative, receptive, and responsive to him, you do not need to do anything else during the wooing stage. Just simply say yes, when he does something. You do not need to remind your future husband that you are there.

He is not wooing you. He has disappeared, which feels really bad. There is nothing you can do to make him interested again. Nothing, other than to leave him alone.

If it has been a week and he has ALWAYS been the one to initiate conversation. I would send him a casual text. Sometimes guys like to know if we are interested too. It’s not like you have been needy in any way. A casual text is not going to hurt in my own opinion.

I am sorry, but never chase a lukewarm man. NO NO NO NO. At 2 dates, this man is not worried if she likes him or not, assuming she has responded enthusiastically on the dates and was thankful for what he provided on the dates – on the date.

Rule of thumb – you can intiate one text for every 3 he intiates – if and only if, he is actively showing up consistently. They have had two dates in 6 weeks, and he has stopped contacting altogether – that is hardly consistent.

This is what this looks like. He gets your number. He asks you out within 48 hours. You see him that week. He follows up after the date to plan another one, soon (within 48 hours). He follows up again, to ask you out that next week. He does that again…. You see a pattern. He follows up and leads and is creating momentum. When the momentum stops, you stop.

I did not say men are selfish. They are not ruled by emotion, they are ruled by logic, and they do what they want. Some are selfish, some are not, just like women.

hi tallidy you seem to know alot about the way a mans mind works. can i just ask you what I should do about the living arrangement with my fiance. he proposed after 6months and he lives with his nan and i live with my sister. lately ive been spending most my time at his nans place and he said we will go spend few nights at my sisters to break it uo a bit. He said his nan doesnt want a lodger so kinda saying he doesnt want me moving in with him. I have not suggested on moving in though with him and im happy at my sisters anyway. Im just wondering if i should wait for him to suggesst us living together and is it too soon should i wait until im married. also is soending so much time at his a bad thing. it just feels strange that we are engaged but not officially living together

Can you explain that to me talllady? How are living together and marriage not the same?

“I really like him, but if he takes so long to text me again it looks like he’s loosing interest which I dont want to happen”

Texting him first isn’t going to make him regain interest. He knows where you are and he will contact you if and when he wants to.

I agree with Talllady on all she wrote.

Girls too often try to rationalize maybe he doesn’t know I like him, maybe I said something wrong, maybe he’s hurt yada yada yada… they do this cause they can’t stand the silence and they think reaching out to the guy is the right thing to do cause the guy needs probing. Well, guys don’t need probing most the time men know when a girl is into them so when they don’t reach out it is just because they don’t want to for whatever reason. Some men build palaces for their queen so a man can certainly pick up the phone for you :)

thanks that helps tallady. yes ill say this in future when he suggests moving in ill say i wouldnt want to move in until a date is set. I dont think six months is too soon though for a proposal it just shows a commitment