My bf of 5 years is confused

Hi,

I’m 27F and my ex since 1h ago is 29M. We’ve been together for 5 years.

Since COVID, my ex has had difficulties in his career as he was training to be a pilot. It was his passion, and he has had to pick up from scratch to learn a new industry. He says this is a small factor although I feel it is significant enough.. I may be in denial.

So my ex and I had a wonderful relationship. I personally felt we connect deeply and emotionally. However, today he suddenly dropped the bomb and said he’s confused. He said he is not sure if he’s in this relationship because it’s so comfortable or if he still have feelings for me. Basically, loss of romantic feelings or physical attraction, although he said he’s still not sure.

Currently we’re on a break. I feel like I handled it well, of course I did cry and tried to explain my side, but I told him I will give him space to think of what he really wants and how he really feels.

I feel like because we’re so comfortable with each other, with his family and friends, we don’t have much interesting dates or crazy long text conversations like we did during our honeymoon stage. He may be overthinking this comfort as lack of love.. I don’t know.

Please advice on how best I can use this this to let him realise that this is just a phase and just because it’s comfortable, doesn’t mean that he don’t love me.