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Kaye
Wren, your size is perfect! I’m an inch shorter than you and unfortunately 20lbs heavier but I do work out 3 times a week. So I kinda have my extra junk in all the right places! Lol Just the other day when my boyfriend was over and I started getting underdressed he just looked at me and said you’re beautiful. It made me smile. But he could say that 100 times and just once say something negative and I’m only going to remember that one comment. Words can hurt. And the thing is you pushed him to talk to you and tell you what was wrong and now you’re upset because he did. And yes it was an insensitive and stupid thing to do but Now he can’t take it back. If this is the only time this has happened in 2 years and it was because you were on his case about not wanting sex or playing too many video games then maybe he did lash out and really regrets it now. We’ve all said things we regret and wish we could take back.
Ticky
Oh I can totally relate to this.
I’m 5 foot tall, 92-94 pounds, big boobs and I work out.
Bf doesn’t know that I know what he thought about my body (I got mono before I ever met him and getting that in your 40s can mess you up). So I know he thinks I have tummy and hip fat (I have measurements of 34-24-32). But here’s the kicker, he works out three times a week, and looks pretty good. However, he thinks his mid section is getting fat. He may not be as cut as he was before, but he’s 36, so perhaps his metabolism is slowing down.
I also know he is supposed not that attracted me because I have wrinkles… I get carded lol… I can’t look THAT old.
So I think I’ve chalked that up to projection about things he doesn’t like about himself. Some guys are just really vain at times and would prefer to nitpick their women. It’s juvenile, but he’s never said it directly to me…and I don’t let it get me down. I look good and I see him notice other men check me out.
I’d say 95% of the time he makes me feel good. I’m his first real relationship, so I know I’m dealing with someone a bit insecure and inexperience lolSometimes you just have to ignore that crap, or walk away. I’m pretty confident and I’m not letting his personal issues affect how I feel about myself…
True beauty and attractiveness is how you present yourself as well. Hold your head high, be confident…if the rest of your relationship doesn’t outweigh that, walk away.
Bunny
Ticky, thank you. I so needed to hear this. And my boyfriend being 29 never had many relationships. The longest was an on & off girlfriend that lasted a year. I never took that into consideration. he has tried backpaddling the subject several times. Im thinking about asking him what exactly does he not like. I think I know of one thing, I dont think he likes large nipples/areolas. Ive got pepperonis. :(
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