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SthrnBelle.
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Maria
Maria the Original – all yours girl!! :P
Nat
Ladies I am surprised, you don’t need to have sex to know you are incompatible.
If you like and need oral and he says he doesn’t do it – you are incompatible in one BIG way already. It is up to to you to decide if it is a deal breaker or not.
If a guy is dominant and you are aggressive in bed as well – you are incompatible, you can find that out before having sex.
If your guy likes to have a woman lead the show but you are submissive, you are incompatible. Again you don’t need to have sex to find that out.
Incompatibilities can be established by talking. You need sex to find out HOW compatible you are.
Icey
Ladies, everything else in our relationship is fine. I already stated why I waited 5 months. I felt like it was a good decision for me, especially with the distance and all. I just wanted to be sure that the new long distance flame didn’t die out so quickly. He and I have had the STD talk before and we got tested together. We have a very honest and open relationship. I know that he cares about me deeply, but this oral sex thing is very confusing right now because this conversation should probably be done in person. He and I agreed to talk about it tonight when I go to visit him.
I enjoy giving and receiving oral but I can’t expect him to feel this way. After reading some of your comments I feel reassured that this is definitely not a deal breaker. Especially since I put the shoe on the other foot and I wouldn’t like it if he pressured me into something I didn’t want to. Even though he says that he didn’t think I pressured him. I think everything will be fine though and we’ll explore other methods of stimulation for me in case this one doesn’t pan out lol. Thanks so much ladies for your comments, thoughts, and experiences it helped a lot!
L
This plot is right out of an old Seinfeld episode, when Elaine found out her hot new bf didn’t do oral.
Icey
Whatever that means L
Denise
If you ever watched the comedy it’s about men and a woman who are ridiculously picky about bf and gfs.
This is like crying about losing your home to a fire, without it ever even catching on fire.
Now you have to talk about this tonight? Dramatic and pretty ridiculous. As someone already pointed out, oral sex could be the least of your worries. The guy could be impotent or have any number of other sexual issues far more significant than not giving you tongue action.
Why don’t you stop all the talking and take a test drive before you start stressing about it.
Icey
We’re not talking about whether or not he gives oral sex its about the miscommunication earlier explained.
Icey
&& if you think talking about that is dramatic then so be it.
Stoli
You need to be compatible in bed.
Crisula
maybe he’s had a bad experience with giving oral.
I know my guy friend couldn’t bring himself to do it anymore because he went down on a girl, and she farted.Being serious…he just thinks of nearly vomiting if he’s doing it, so he just stopped…
SthrnBelle
Well, this is why waiting this long is too long. Sex needs to be done not talked about, then you can really find out what it is like and whether you two are compatible in the bedroom. Many say and I agree that sex is at least 50 % success of the relationship. To me more. I will not be in a relationship with someone who does not do oral and is not open to adventure and trying out things together, intimacy and making love are among the greatest things in life. I cannot orgasm via penetration about 80 % of the time and using fingers is even harder. Oral is something I definitely love giving and receiving with the right partner. If a guy does not, he is too selfish and believe me a guy who is head over heels for you will be all over you. This does not sound right. However, I would give it a chance and just do it once. Then you will know. Do not expect it right away, I never start with it but if you have sex a few times and it is no good then you should walk. Yes you risked getting emotionally involved and if sex is important to you and you two are not compatible, then this is going to be a deal breaker.
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