My close guy friend's girlfriend hates me, advice needed.

with this new info, I think this girl is toxic. If he wants to put up with that, leave him to it.

As they say “you burn your a$$, you sit on the blisters”. Let him sit.

I’d stay away from both of them.

@star: I was in a similar situation. It won’t last beyond 3-4 months or anything long term but at least now you can’t be used as the scapegoat. Eventually he will probably get tired of her crap because it’s most likely an emotional rollercoaster ride…in some ways, quite exciting but gets old after awhile. If the girl is hot/sex is amazing, extend the timeline out a bit.

I had similar experience back somewhere in my history. I had a good guy friend who I could totally reply and share my personal stories. I used to like him and was the same for him. But we never had any romantic relationship because it just did not happen. The timing was wrong.

Then he got a gf. Then I had a date. His gf hated me so much. Stupidly enough, my guy friend complimented about my appearance and said he used to like me. His gf was younger than me and was quite insecure person. I explained it to so many times I have no intention to steal her bf but she cried and begged me to sort of back off. So I did back off and disconnected with him. I still have this strong feeling of not being pleased with his gf because I went through a lot of difficult time after that for some personal issues. I was not able to find a person to rely on because all of my best friends left the town. However, I think I did the right thing. My other guy friends told me the guy was still in love with me but I was the one who was rejecting his gesture. Whatever. I did not want any romantic relationship. I rather became friend with his gf. Just back off. That is right thing to do for your friend.

In the same situation, I hang out with this girls bf a lot. We’re close and she hates me. When I talk to him she death stares me, she tried to fight me. I always tell her I am not intruded in him like that but she won’t back off. If you’re friendship is important don’t let go like I haven’t. Eventually they might break up or get married. Either way you have your friendship, just avoid husband new gf until she’s more comfortable.

Star, you said you and your best guy friend are very close, could I ask what you mean by ‘very close’? how close exactly are you two? How often do you communicate and see each other? what do you do as friends together?

I’m asking because my partner has a close female friend and she used to text/message him everyday. They were co-workers so they were already seeing each other at work, then there were all the after work drinks, weekend catch-ups, early morning and late night chats on social media…. their level of communication sued to cause a lot of fights between me and my partner. He accused me of being insecure and jealous. But to me, they were disrespectful of me.

I have guy friends and I never allow myself to get in the way between them and their partner.

Get your own handle…

A friend who hates your guts… We all need a friend like that!

Let them run their course. If there’s a lesson to learn that she’s not the right one he needs to learn that on his own. The girlfriend hates your guts because she senses you dont like them together. Never be the reason they break up. Let them try it out and if it don’t work it won’t. Let your guy friend know you don’t trust the girl but you’re not the one to decide who he should be with. Then back away. Leave them alone.