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Cynthia
I have a crush and it’s my coworker, unfortunately. In the beginning he’s the one who started staring at me and making sexy eye contacts lol. Now no moves whatsoever from both of us several months later. I am the one who is head over heels and he seems to be the one with hot and cold signals. Every time I see him I try to look at him and he’s always looking elsewhere but not at me.
I feel like a teenager trying to figure out how he feels about me. Is he that shy? I mean I don’t mind telling him how I feel, but I’m going through divorce and maybe he knows about it? I have a low confidence and morally wrong to tell someone while still technically married in paper.
Anyways why would someone look at me in the beginning and even act like they liked me and now a total ignorance?
Any inputs on this?Liz Lemon
Do you and this guy ever speak? Sorry to be harsh but it sounds like this is all in your head. From what you’re saying, he used to look at you and now doesn’t look at you. But there’s no way to know if someone is actually interested in you, and whether you have a connection, if you don’t have conversations. So do you and this guy talk? How much do you know about him? Are you sure he’s single?
Also, if you’re going through a divorce– my advice is to get your divorce settled, then worry about dating. The regular posters on this site always advise women not to date men who are in the middle of divorce. The same holds true for women, in my book. Get your affairs settled, then see about dating– just my two cents.
Raven
Yeah @Cynthia, I think you’re looking for a diversion.
You were ‘safe’ to flirt with while you were married, proper. Now thing’s have changed & maybe he doesn’t want you to get the wrong idea…
Also, it’s never ever a good idea to date people you work with.
Cynthia
Thank you! I tried to talk, but I get nervous and I have a high anxiety 😟 He doesn’t try to talk also gets red around me. I am starting to think that probably it was all in my head. Otherwise we would’ve had some kind of conversations and hanging out together?
tammy
three things i) get through your divorce; (ii) do not date men with from your workplace and (iii) if he hasn’t asked you out for even a coffee despite you giving him the looks fr months, it shows that hes not interested.
do yourself a favor and forget about trying to date uninterested men from your workplace. if he says no, things can get pretty awkward for you. you anyways cant get involved seriously with anyone while your in the midst of a divorce. its definitely not a good idea to date casually men from your workplace either! so forget about this and look for casual dating elsewhere.
Liz Lemon
I agree with what the other posters have said about not getting involved with someone at work. That aside, the fact that you never have conversations or hang out (lunch, coffee breaks, etc), is a sign that there’s no potential. It doesn’t matter if he looks at you and turns red. Who knows what’s going on in his head. If he can’t converse with you this will go nowhere. It shouldn’t go anywhere anyway, because like we all said, it’s a very bad idea to date coworkers.
zoe
What I suggest is you be friendly with him, initiate a small talk in the beginning and see how it goes. Try to be his friend at work. DO NOT tell him how you feel.
After that you try flirting a little but DO NOT tell him how you feel.
Be hot and cold as well. If you tell him a compliment next day be colder.
If he likes you he WILL initiate something with you.
He needs to initiate! Men know that
If he doesnt he is not that into you -
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