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emma
So a couple days ago I made a post on here about how my ex was taunting me through social media. Today, just 20 minutes ago, he texted me for the first time since the break up to tell me he graduated today and that he thought id want to know. First of all, I already know because he posted about it on his story and he can see that i viewed it. Second of all, his text came out of nowhere. Last time we spoke was when we broke up and he told me I didnt have the right to cry because we were breaking up and that he wasnt going to let the breakup effect him. And also said he regrets not breaking up with me sooner. Yet he’s the one to text me? Should I even text him back or ignore him? I havent contacted him once and im trying to move on with my life.
Raven
Ignore, Ignore, Ignore & Block. But- don’t block until next week… That will make him a little crazy.
Erin
Emma girl,why haven’t you blocked this man child already and why are you still keeping up with his social media shenanigans?
Newbie
I guess all previous advice didnt register. Why do you keep thinking about this guy. Try to train yourself in thinking you can do better. I mean you post about a guy who told you he wish he broke up sooner. I mean really? Every time you think about this guy pull a rubber band on your arm to realize you can do without him causing you pain
Newbie
To make this perfectly clear to you: this guy doesnt deserve you. He didnt treat you like a real gf. He kept you a secret and that probably means you were a placeholder gf. Did he really include you in this life? Spoke about joined future plans? I think not.
You did yourself the best service ever by breaking up. Stick to it. Of course he misses you. But even what he does now does not even come close to a guy realizing he lost the love of his life. Thats what you should mourn. And then accept it and move on. Not ever go back to the same situation. Grieving is hard and takes time. You need to block him to not get tempted againLane
Whenever you breakup the BEST method to get over them faster, and move on, is to remove all traces of them by taking the “out of sight, out of mind” method. By doing this, you’re brain will start thinking of them less, and less, until they become a distant or non-memory.
Using this visual helped me a lot. I’m sitting in the driver’s seat of my car, I look in the rear view mirror, and see him standing there. I say a final “good bye” look forward, hit the gas, and keep on driving forward while putting him in the dust. Once you do this, you stop ALL contact as that’s how the brain will start the process of forgetting they existed, hence why I can’t even remember some of the names of guys I broke up, or broke up with me, over the past 35+ years lol.
Cut him completely off, and allow your brain to forget about him. You don’t ever want to become stuck in a perpetual state of *Limerence* (unrequited love). It’s a dangerous mindset to get into, as it could cripple your chances of finding true love. Now is the time to end it by removing ALL traces of him until you reach the point of ‘indifference’ which is when you hardly ever think of him, and when you do, any thought that pops in, pops out just as quickly (second or two), and you don’t have another for a very long time. Strive for indifference!
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