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Rebecca
My friend with benefits is such a sweet heart. We have amazing sex, then cuddle, and he will ask me about things I care about. He is an all around great guy. We did not take the time out to make it clear about whether he wanted to know if I got another FWB while still hanging out with him.
When another guy came along and offered, I wanted to, but I thought I should talk to my current FWB. I would want to know if the guy sleeps with another woman while with me, just a heads up.
My FWB said that I should do what I want, but he feels uncomfortable about it. He went on to say that he felt jealous but he does not want to “hold me back”. Then said he would understand if I wanted to stop the FWB relationship we have.
I do not want to stop what we have. I just told him about the offer because I did not want him to feel surprised if he found out that I had another FWB.
I just want to know if my FWB has feelings for me. Honesty if he asked I would date him. He would make a wonderful boyfriend. I’m just not sure where we stand right now.Raven
Well Rebecca,
You won’t know until you two have a conversation… sounds as if you’ve got feelings for this guy?Phillygirl
Well, the common wisdom on this subject is that FWB should never be someone you have an interest in, or desire to have a relationship with.
A FWB by definition is no strings attached sex. Meaning neither of you has any intent to take it further than sex with a friend.
Most men don’t like the person they are sleeping with (specifically in FWB context) to be with other men, purely for seflish/ego reasons. A man can not want you as a girlfriend but still not wish to share you with anyone. Again, it’s about their ego, and if they are smart, it would also be a concern for their health. Once you are active with someone else it is also more risky for them from an STD standpoint. I am not implying you would not be using protection or be smart (I am assuming you would be) But I wouldn’t want to sleep with anyone who is sleeping with others either.
I have no idea what he is thinking. But I am pretty sure that if he wanted more out of this, he would be bringing it up, rather than saying he is ready to end your arrangement.
redcurleysue
Hi,
I think that if he wanted more that you said you wanted to start with another guy would have met a whole different answer than do what you want.
I am sorry that you feel good about this guy but by his response I would say he is not interested in totally keeping you to himself. Women have more of a danger of falling for someone in this regard…so be careful on FWB and you don’t get invested….
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