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Kelli
My girlfriend talks about her ex (her child’s father ) on social media atleast twice a week [27M] [25F]
In a relationship with a woman who has a son. She had this child with her ex. I’m not quite sure what happened between them two because she won’t go into detail but she does talk bad about him on Facebook a lot.
Examples of some of Her Facebook status about him
“My baby daddy ain’t got any teeth”
“My baby daddy and his mom are stupid “
“I’m so embarrassed by my ex”She will tag him in post and call him a dead beat dad or comment on his pictures telling him he looks dumb
Just a few I’ve seen recently
Does she still care about him?
TL:DR; new girlfriend posts negative things about her ex on her social media
Raven
She does this to him… She will do this to You.
Tallspicy
She may not care about him, but she is emotionally entangled – and that creates distance between you two. He is part of your relationship for practical and not practical reasons The fact that you are worried about her caring for you, and not being shocked by her behavior and deeply turned off, is something you need to think about.
A couple of things to consider – RED FLAGS
A. She will say the same about you when you breakup – this is how she will behave
B. She is demonstrating a lack of being able to forgive. That will land on you as well.
C. She is very very public about things, that is a gross boundary issueThe adult thing to do is to tell you this is a red flag, and tell her it is unacceptable and a deal breaker. You could start by giving an observation and ask her why she does it. Then explain it creates distance and is not ok for you. Ask how you can solve it together.
BUT, these types of red flags require a lot of work and commitment and should not be ignored.
Erin
She’s clearly still bitter about how things ended between her and her baby daddy and therefore is still obsessed with him and wants to make him pay *eyeroll*
This is a woman who is clearly not ready for another relationship because she has not only NOT healed from her previous one, but she is going out of her way to sabotage her CURRENT one.
YOU don’t need that mess and drama in your life, you don’t want to be caught in the middle of it.
I guess the next thing you’ll see her post if your dump her is ‘Men Are Trash’, ‘If someone can’t love you at your worst, they don’t deserve you at your best’, ‘A real man sticks with you’ lol.
Walk away before she drives you crazy too
Liz Lemon
They say there’s a thin line between love and hate. She may not “care” for him, or be in love with him, but he still obviously occupies a lot of her thoughts, energy, and attention. Which is the opposite side of the same coin. In either case (love or hate), she is still hung up on her ex.
If I were dating a person who did this, I’d drop them like a hot potato. For all the reasons mentioned above– the total lack of respecting boundaries, the drama and immaturity (this is the way high school kids behave, not adults), the fact that she’s still so hung up on her ex, and the fact that the way she treats him is how she will ultimately treat you if things don’t work out in your relationship.
Emily
Ask her if she still cares about him. We have no idea what she’s thinking. It’s immature and petty to do what she’s doing. Do you really want to date someone who handles things like this?
Ss
Immature, petty, red flag, total turn OFF
Queenie
This is a huge red flag as others have said, and this is foreshadowing on how she will treat you if things go sour.
Love and Hate are an emotion of passion, and if she still hates him (not moved on) then this will likely be an ongoing issue for you two. I would suggest mentioning it to her, asking why she publicized her personal info on FB and go from there. But, unfortunately, I don’t think the outlook is great… -
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