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Home › Forums › Dating and Sex Advice › My teenage kids accidentally sent my ex and invite to my 60th birthday party
mama.
Terri
I put my kids (aged 16 and 18) in charge of organising my big birthday bash later next month. They sent the invites out via email and have somehow included my ex in this (his surname is very similar to one of my friends). Nevermind how it happened I am cringing and wondering whether I need to do something or just hope he will ignore it. They just sent it out last night and so far no response from him.
Our ending was 4 years ago and I went no contact as he hurt me. He wanted to keep in touch and we did have a few email exchanges but then I ignored him. A bit of me wants to use this recent contact to start a conversation that I probably should have had with him when we split up (ie tell him how much he hurt me). However, I am scared this will look really petty and as if I planned the birthday invite as an excuse to start talking.
I don’t know what to do. I am scared that if I don’t say anything he might actually turn up as he might see the invitation as an olive branch.
Eeek! Advice please! Yes, I know I should have deleted his email address ages ago
Liz Lemon
Yikes. If I were in your shoes, I’d follow up with a very brief email saying that the previous email was sent to him in error and to please disregard it. And say nothing else, no conversation about how much he hurt you, etc. More importantly than anything, just be businesslike.
Hopefully he doesn’t respond or use it as an opportunity to try to start a conversation. Because honestly, yeah he may very well see the email as an olive branch, and he may possibly show up to the party, who knows! So I’d be direct and clear, and say it was sent in error.
Kash
Agree with liz.
mama
Please please please follow Liz’s advice. Keep it short and simple. He does not need a rehash of how he hurt you 4 years ago and you don’t need it either. Get a therapist for that. Happy birthday!
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