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Sophia.
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Liz Lemon
Just wondering how old you both are? And how long did you date before you broke up?
The fact that you heard nothing at all from the guy for a month and a half speaks volumes to me. No guy who cares about a woman romantically would go that long without contact. You’re trying to rationalize it by saying he works and only has time to think on weekends? Like he can’t think during the week? If a man wants someone, he knows, it doesn’t take a guy (or anyone really) that long to decide if they want to be with someone, especially if you’d already been talking/reconnecting for 3 months prior.
I’m pointing this out in the hope you’ll learn from it. The posters here are right that in the future, don’t waste your time with guys who “aren’t sure” after months of dating. That’s plenty of time for a guy to make up his mind.
But if you’re as volatile in your relationships as you are in this thread, it doesn’t surprise me he moved on without telling you. Was it crappy, sure, but it’s not surprising. At any rate you’re leaving town, right? You didn’t want to be with him anymore. Just let it go and move on.
AmyAB
It would be really interesting to hear this guy’s side of the story. It’s obvious why he walked away – no one wants to tangle with a Stage 5 clinger and drama queen like this. Probably you have some good qualities that attracted him in the beginning, but your temper and immaturity are repulsive.
You got some good insights and advice from Angie and Lane and you trashed them. And everyone else too. Since you’re so darn sure you were right in the way you handled this poor guy, no idea why you felt the need to post for “support.” You’ve alienated everyone here and you’ll keep driving men away until you stop the overreactive attacks when you feel threatened. You’ve got a major anger problem and you’re kind of a jerk.
Sophia
I don’t see where he cheated. He said he wanted to go back to just being friends. Then you didn’t hear from him for six weeks, which probably would have continued longer had you not contacted him to meet, all the while being friend zoned. No cheating that I see. And the reason you wanted to meet was so you could tell him you were moving for a job, that it’s over, and he should date others again.
So basically he kinda did what you were going to tell him to do anyway.
I think you just missed the clue that he was
already emotionally out of the relationship when he said he only wanted friendship. He didn’t want to hurt you further so he agreed to think about it and get back to you. This was a break up to him, but just a break to you.Yeah. Guys will say and agree to anything to not hurt someone further. You probably wouldn’t have heard from him again had you not wanted to meet, because six weeks actually is quite a long time. He was gone. You just didn’t realize it. Screw him.
Good luck with your new job and your new life!
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