Never initiate first?

Hi all,

Just wanted to hear what people think about initiating. Should women never initiate first whether for a date or to just start a friendly convo before he is your bf? I read a lot of advise supporting this theory on here but was just wondering how strict everyone is at abiding to this rule…

In my case, I started spending more time with a friend I’ve known for a few years, it’s obvious we both have feelings for each other, but how strong of a feeling on his part is what I’m trying to assess. Since the lockdown, we have actually spoken more as he would call me at least once a week for an hour long convo and catch up. He doesn’t text often, mostly logistic type of communication, with a few random thoughts once in a while, but when we are on the phone the convo is usually very engaging. I don’t initiate the calls at all, but sometimes I may encounter something that I just really want to share with him on the spot. I usually try to keep a mental note for the next time we are on the phone to bring up, but was wondering if it’s so bad to text him some interesting thoughts when I really want to share something with him on the spot…

Interested to hear what everyone’s opinion is around this…

Thanks!