new guy and long distance texting? what's the point? what do I do?

It already fizzled.

If you are initiating all the texting, he has pretty much moved on. He will probably keep your number in his phone in case he wants company, while next time in town.

Why would you meet a man just visiting your town? Just curious. It seems like a waste of time to meet someone who lives 4 hours away. Most men visiting and using Twitter to meet women are looking for a casual hook up,or temporary company for a day or two.

The only think you know for sure is he backed off communicating. That means he doesn’t want to pursue this further. It’s probably nothing to do with you, the distance may be an issue. Be careful not to just rely on the internet to meet guys. A ton of people online lie about who they are and what they’re looking for. Plus, online is a magnet for flakes.

Why just why would you want to go after a guy who is 4 hours away? Why get yourself into something that is already a problem right from the start? We talk about it all the time here on this forum. So you met a nice guy, talked to him a little, why do you get stuck on him? There are local guys, leave this one be. It is a no go. Long distance guys – don’t even talk to them. Focus on guys that can be a good fit potentially using realistic common sense criteria.

Long distance, married, recently divorced or separated, work together, big age gap either way, big social gap either way, big gap in education either way, religious differences if both are religious and in different ones. Make sure you focus on guys who don’t clash with you on any of those.

I’d like to premise this post by saying I apologize on behalf of the previous comments. I’ve been there before (literally talking to someone who lives a 7 hr plane ride away… across the ocean) and receiving all that negative feedback can be a downer, even if it holds some truth.

While this post comes a few years too late, I hope it comes to you in good health and hopefully with a hot new man by your side. I really enjoy your positivity and interest in making things work. Wishing the best for you always- gen

I’ve been talking to a guy who lives all the way in South Africa and I live in Arizona, we met on Tinder but never in person. We text everyday, with both initiating, face time, send pictures and sexting. I enjoy the attention he showers me with, but my question is why does he continue to pursue me, if we go a day with out texting he will send me a text or ask why I’m so quiet? I’ve asked him what he wants from this and he said he has no expectations… then why is he still contacting me??!! Help me in understanding his intentions, when I did ask him, he said he is very picky and that he finds me very intelligent and likes me, yet he doesn’t have any expectations… he also asked me if I would move there to South Africa it it worked out between us and I said yes, but maybe he was drinking when he asked me that???…
Annie

Under NO circumstances travel to South Africa as it will be declared a failed state in six months time. Don’t you know that murder and other serious crimes are through the roof there?!
South Africa is getting all set to go the way of Zimbabwe with hyper inflation and profound civil unrest.

He likes masturbating and it’s easy to find someone like you for that.