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Mariaa
Me and this guy made it official and ever since then I can’t help but have second thoughts. This is my first real relationship. I am missing the single life. I miss being independent and the excitement. But he makes me so happy. I like him a lot. I can’t tell if maybe this is a defense mechanism because I am scared it’s real which means I can get hurt. Even if I was single, I wouldn’t want to even talk to any other guys because they wouldn’t be him. But I still feel suffocated but idk why because he’s not super overbearing. He is honestly perfect which is why I am so confused as to why I am having these thoughts. Is this normal? Why is it happening and how can I make it stop?
Raven
What is your age?
Maria
I am 20.
Andrea
It’s difficult at early stages. I was in a similar situation.
I was 22 when I met my bf last year and after 2 months, we made things official. I really liked him, He was patient, funny, genuine and just perfect but for some reason I had doubts about the relationship/him and even had times when I was close to breaking up with him. Also my first relationship and I missed being single. The doubts lasted for about 2month ish and I just felt overwhelmed by it but then.. slowly and suddenly I was in love with him and all the doubts went away.
Not saying my story is what’s happening with you but sometimes you need to figure things out. Thinking back, it was a blur but I’m so glad I didn’t call it quits
Maria
Andrea,
Are you still with him? Overwhelmed is honestly the perfect word to describe how I’m feeling right now.
Andrea
Yeah I’m still with him and going strong. I think being stressed and overwhelmed is just built into me but even after this I sometimes still feel overwhelmed by relationship stress.
Just take it slow and don’t force yourself. If it’s right, it will fall into place. If it isn’t then it’s also ok to stay single
chami
I started a relationship with my best friend 3 years ago. He was my best friend since we were kids. I really loved him alot and we thought of starting a special relationship. But I’m a person who love to develop my self in education and sports I’m almost forward than him. But he is a backward person I have to push him always and sometimes it pushes me back too. But with time I met a guy who likes me and he never told it. but he showed it through his actions. He is really smart and also he always motivates me, he protects me alot and he tries to spend time with me. I feel like my heart is aching because I feel that I love him but my best friend and he’s my bf now. I feel like I’m going to loose him. pls someone help me in taking the best decision because I don’t want to hurt anyones feelings. But this hurts so much.
Maria
Pls update w more advice !
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