New to dating: is it normal that some days you text a lot and some days just onc

I think this is a good question. I have sometimes had unrealistic expectations of how much a guy I’m dating should text me. Also men are not robots and as much we would like them to be really consistent – some just don’t care about texting as much and will therefore vary in their habits. I think what’s important to gauge (once the pandemic is over) how much TIME they are setting aside to date you. Men communicate most with their actions and bond with a woman by spending time with her. During the time period – and not being able to do that – you can know a man is interested in you if he is consistently reaching out and leading the interaction, as well as making phone calls. So many men (women as well) are not big phone talkers – so if a guy is maintaining a schedule of asking to speak to you regularly – chances are he’s interested.

But men aren’t going to put a ton of energy into a phone (which is all a woman is right now if he can’t date her). Especially in the early stages. So I would just lean back, concentrate on your life and allow him to be just a nice diversion here and there. Let him initiate. If he stops making contact all together you’ll know his interest wasn’t high enough. Also some men may dip out right now, then resurface when distancing is lifted. I think that’s fine too as most men don’t like to chat as much as women do. Learn to date yourself first and just allow a man to supplement your life. It’s the only way to be truly happy.