No contact for 4 days

Thank you Sonia.. I do feel that way. The “What if I had just told him how I felt, just reached out one more time, just try..” was weighing very heavily on me. I feel like I’ve done all I can now. There’s nothing left but to move on. Easier said than done.. But I am walking that path now.

Yep, it’s been nailed…you came off as needy and he panicked. He probably felt that if you were getting on him about something so small such as a phone call when he at least texted, how would you react to something bigger? No need beating yourself up about it now though…learn from this. Next time curb your anxiety by keeping yourself busy! Go to the gym, call a girlfriend, throw your phone in a pool…whatever you need to do to keep yourself from reacting and then feeling bad about it later. Seriously, sometimes I need to give my phone to my friend or throw it somewhere and run away to keep myself from saying something that I know will come off as needy, because I have a tendency of doing the same thing.

If he comes back, great! If not, dont sweat it, hes not worth it. Another one will come along that is even better.

Lol Nicole, I have had people take it from me in the past.:))) Fortunately, I am over that now and that was the worst breakup of my life and even then I made one phone call and sent one message later but anyhow I think even that is too much sometimes, it can be enough to push a guy over the edge. But I am much better off without him.

I am just telling you Luzinha that it can be too much, 3 messages is a bit much in five days, double texting is already too much if he does not respond to one. I even double think sending one. But you know that this is not the right person and is a coward. You are of course not at fault. He is the one that did not care about you and you will be better off in the end.

Just learn from this and walk away with dignity, do not continue feeding his ego with texts, that is the only reason we are telling you not to. Also because sometimes when a guy is thinking they should be left alone but if someone runs away from one text that is not your person anyhow.

There will be stages and relapses but stay strong for your own good please. Something so short should not take so long to get over. I am sure no serious damage was done to you and you will be able to find happiness.

just an updated I keep my word of not contacting my boyfriend or “nagging him” is been four days since tuesday night that day i send him a text saying to call me i wanted to talk to him I ask him what wrong, “in my mind I was thinking why haven’t you contact me like he always does” of course i did not say it out loud I keep my calm and i told my self cool down I do not want to get mad at him or say something I do not mean.he said he just been to busy at work and the boss is all on them and he tired and does not want to do anything and he ask me how I’ve been and I said great just busy with school.then before we hang up he told me he loves me like he always does.

I told myself this time I wont beg for his text or give him to much attention like i always do maybe if i stop doing all that he will get it.

I started going out with friends and focus on myself because I think he taken me for granted for all the little things I do for him when he need me I am always there but not this time I will stay away for a while and see if he gets it.

what do you guys think?

SthrnBelle

thank you. yes is hard not to want to but I also want to keep my word. What happens when I do not bother to look for him he comes finds me and this time I will not . Yes is hard not having him text me or hear his voice and I I will not get his mother or sister involved is not their fault the way he acting .

that way I think he taking me for granted because he thinks I will always be there for him and will always answer him when he need to talk to me .

Is hard but I can do it I already told him nice that aleast to text me once in a while but two weeks have this started since. I will not him the ego of thinking I always will be there.

I hope I get my answer soon.

Kay, loved your comment here. Finally someone saying that the “book” offered on this site is helpful to someone. I was so skeptical about it but reading your opinion made me say hmmm… Maybe I should.

Good discussion here and Good Luck Luzinha! Hang in there, let him go and see if he returns!

(meant to say happy EVEN without my constant attention).