No contact success stories

We met when we were 18, he was 19, we dated for two years and were each others first loves, then he broke my heart and left, started dating other girls, the whole works. i begged and pleaded and he was so done? i couldnt understand it. i became so drained i think at some point (2/3 weeks after the breakup) i stoppe contacting him, i was still stalking and heartbroken, crying everyday, but as long as he knew i was gone. he seemed so happy on twitter, tweeting this new girl, he seemed so fine and i was so so sad. fast forward 3 months and i see all these i miss you, i missed up etc etc hints on twitter, i paid no attention because i was confused about whether they were about me or this other girl.

we broke up in feb, he told me he was seeing someone very quickly after that, after no contact and when i was finally okay and i had accepted the breakup even though i missed him terribly, i started being myself again. i went for dinner with my best friend on my bday, and he texted me that same night, we had a brief friendly chat and then we didnt speak for another 10 days, then he texts me again.

He grovelled hard, said he regrets the other girl, she was nothing to him, he was masking his emotions etc etc. we have been together since and everything worked out. it took a lot of forgiveness and patience. you need to heal, he will contact you, but you have to ghost, completely. humans are humans, he will get curious about you at some point.

Hi, My bf has been very insecure in our relationship from the very start. the reason being was my relationship with my ex. We broke up a few years ago but we have remained friend ..just friends who have no attraction whatsoever towards each other. But it was a bone of contention for him. But due to his insecurities we had a a lot of fights that ended in break ups. We got back together soon enough. We had progressed towards getting engaged, but he broke it off cause he was not able to trust me. I was too angry at that time cause over the period of 7 mnths i had everything he asked me to. From checking in, to sending him pics, changing my lifestyle. I was also angry so when he broke it off i did not go after him this time. Its been a few days of no contact and i miss him terribly. His last msg was he wont call, msg, or ask me to meet after this. He has stayed true to his words. I dont know what to do. If i go to him i lose my self respect. If i dont then i know i will lose him forever. Please help. Does No contact really help ? Will he realise his mistake, will he come back ? can we work through this one ? These question are eating me and i dint know where to go / who to ask. Please help if you can

and another thing. how can anyone say whether he will get in touch or not? that’s for you to figure. there is a 50 percent chance. he may or he may not. so then what? if he doesn’t get in touch even after 4/8weeks?

I am sorry you are hurting, but how do you expect to feel? Breakups are always very hurtful, burning your soul out alive. Everyone goes through this, you are not alone.

You just have to endure this, and yes, this means you might not get back together again. But as kaye said, it is for the best for you. What starts this way would not lead to a good marriage.

You can go after him again, and experience round 3. But it will still end the same way, and it will hurt AGAIN just as much when you have to go contact AGAIN because he’d end things and would block you. In the meantime you’d get angrier and angrier and acquire more baggage that would be harder to shed off. It would take you longer to get over things and feel free to meet someone new.

There is no easy pain free way out.

I have a feeling you are going to go after him and beg him to come back. If you are going to do it, then do it now, do not wait and drag it. Go through round 3 faster, you’d get out faster. Good luck.