No contact while pregnant

Have you tried daily affirmations like: I love myself and my baby, I will be a great mother, I can heal and let go of pain etc. What ever you choose is up to you. It won’t work instantly but over time you will feel like you believe in yourself more or even love yourself more. Nobody can love you until you love yourself 1st, maybe he even was treating you how you think you are worth but your not worthless! You are strong, You are going through a rough patch now but the more horrible a storm is the brighter the rainbow. Hold on and you will get through it.

The other thing i can think of is look at a lesson from this pain; it might be you will be more financial independence and know how to mange money better or something else. Not all pain has to be bad and change us for the worst we can also use that pain to give us wisdom.

Hi. Oh you poor thing this is not a good place to be in. A good guy would not be picking fights with the pregnant mother of his child. First things first the health of your baby is the most important thing here so that has got to be where you are focusing your time and energy. Have you got friends and family close by you are going to need them for support and help at the moment and then even more so once the baby is here. How are things financially will you be able to care and support your child as this man may not want to help or be able to. I dont know what age you are, if the baby was planned or if this is your first but whatever your position babies are hard work and financially quite difficult too so you need to make sure you are ready and organised for when the baby comes. Apart from sorting out the practicalities I would just try and focus all your thoughts into nurturing and pampering yourself so you are stronger physically and emotionally for the healthy arrival of your baby. Baby comes first, arguments and stress from a partner in this way is unhealthy. Try and get yourself to a better place with your ex and try and forget about him as much as you can and concentrate on you and the baby. Hes not worth your time and energy at the moment. Its all about you being good to you. Good luck. x

How awful what he’s done to you. A decent person would not have left a pregnant woman and definitely not pick fights with her and cause her stress.

You are very vulnerable right now, your hormones are raging. That’s why you find it that hard. Be patient, dream of your baby, enjoy all the preparations, redirect all your feelings to your baby. Every time you feel a pang of grief, catch this moment and redirect it to love for your baby. Affirmations is a great way indeed. My baby is my love. Keep signing this to yourself all day long. Good luck and lots of love! LOL

Is that guy the type of guy you want your future daughter dating? If not, let him go. You are your baby’s role model now. She will look to you on how to do everything, including how to date. If you aren’t with a man who treats you with respect and love and care and consistency, don’t expect your daughter to ever look for those qualities in a man for herself. Seriously. You deserve better.

You’re beating yourself up here for no reason! Two weeks is not a lot of time to be no contact and it is not some miracle cure that’s going to make you forget him in that length of time. And the fact you are carrying his baby alone is going to make you think of him. As someone else pointed out you have hormones raging and it’s not going to be an easy process. Time is the only thing that can make it better. You will begin to think about him less and less until one day you are going to bed and realize he hasn’t crossed your mind all day. Or you wake up one morning and realize he wasn’t your first thought. And definitely when the baby gets here you will have so much to do and so much love for this child you won’t have time to think of him!!

You are better off going no contact and do not live with him. so when the baby is born, he is legally not a guidance of the baby. He gets no decision making for the baby. But you can ask him for child support legally if you like.

Tobogirl, maybe this will help you get a different perspective to get over him. Your baby is being affected by your lack of emotional well being and that will affect her in life. It has been well documented that unborn babies have an increase in intelligence being read to, talked to and listening to music.

Maybe focusing on her will help get you out of this emotionally dark place. I would suggest writing a gratitude journal daily. Since you have to limit your movement maybe create a ritual where you take time to really savor each item. So for example appreciating the comfort of your bed. Spend several minutes just focusing on how soft your sheets are, how comfy your bed is, how much you like your pillow, etc. Spend about 15 min a day on gratitude. Not only will it make you feel better, it creates positive chemical changes in the body and will positively affect your baby girl.

I would also suggest meditating. All meditating is, is practicing focus. Try to do meditate for 15 min a day. Start with 5 if need by. Sit comfortably and pick something to focus on. It can be your breath or a sound in the room. I listen to the birds chirping in the morning. Set your timer and focus. Within a very short period of time, your thoughts will be off in different directions. As soon as you notice you are thinking and not focusing bring your focus back on the birds chirping (or whatever you choose). That is all you do. The first time you may have to bring your mind back 100 times. As you keep practicing not only does your focus get better, but there are all sorts of beneficial changes that go on in the brain and the body. It will also be very good for her. You could even choose to focus love on her and just watch she will respond. You will be able to communicate with her that way if you take the time and practice.

I would also recommending reading her children’s books. A good way to keep you focused on positive things and will also help her develop her intellect.

Get all your favorite movies and shows that are uplifting and make you laugh. Put together a music list for your daughter, upbeat and positive.

Use your love for your daughter to leverage your well being. Become well for your sake first and foremost, but if he can’t muster that, be well for her sake.

Once you get your head in a good place which all these exercises can help you do, you will be able to deal with the father from a much more peaceful place. Good luck